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In fine aspie form, I misunderstood her needing space. She meant physical space in the presence of her parents.

Last edited by thechadmaster on 31 Jul 2012, 8:21 pm, edited 1 time in total.

she just said she needs space.

this means its over doesnt it?

2 months and you're buying her a car??? Maybe you're coming on a bit too strong...

And don't buy her a car.... if she just asked for space after getting it I'm going to be very, very angry...

Well... it can happen. From my experience you can become tired of seeing the same person day in, day out... now that's not to suggest she's finding someone else or has done.
What I'm saying is that sometimes being together too often can become boring.
You can either work through those differences by trying to see each other less often or it'll probably not work out.
If not then it's not the end of the world because you can put yourself out there... plus the first time is hard as I've been there before but it just builds up and gets better with experience under your belt.

I think you'll have to be spontaneous such as going with her to a restaurant... but don't do this immediately.
Give her space... Personally I don't think it's over really, it doesn't sound like she's just getting a car and leaving you high and dry.
Don't be pushy, let her initiate contact. When she does, say you want to see her in two weeks time...

^^ This. I hope you haven't been "had".

I think not only did you manage to freak her out but you've been had in the process.
I'd take ownership of the car if you can if you are the one making payments.

Hang on a minute though... if you paid for the car...
You should be able to claim it and get refunded.

No, not if it's in her name. Then it's considered a "gift".

Oh dear. OP, I would worry less about the girl and more about how to stop any more money being lost.
Please don't think me cruel, just level headed.

OP didn't say who's name is on the car...
Failing that then, legally he should claim against her...

And again I say that with this kind of situation, the courts consider it a "gift".

Shot himself in the foot then essentially.

I sincerely hope not. But, unfortunately, that sometimes happens with love and the accompanying vulnerability. Hopefully it was a sensible Honda and not a Maserati.

Seconded. Breakups are hard (if you do end up there) and it's easy to get so wrapped up in the relationship stuff that you discount practical concerns, but later on when things have settled down you will regret it if you don't look out for your interests while you have the chance.

Indeed. You bought her a car and now she says she needs space?! If you can, reverse this. She is having you for breakfast.