How do you determine if you are physically attractive?

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In light of the popular "do you consider yourself physically attractive?" threads, how does one actually determine whether they are physically attractive?

I think NTs with many relationships learn based on the attractiveness of their partners what "league" they are in. I am not sure what "league" I'm in except that it's far from attractive, but not butt-ugly. How do you guys determine your attractiveness or improve it?

Looking in the mirror?
In all serious though I get what your saying. I think I am fairly attractive.
I think that it is down to dress sense... personally mine can be abysmal however some days it does match up very well with my own self.

At the price of sounding controversial, try to think what you find attractive in your own sex. Most people have a degree of same-sex attraction.

Usually, I compare myself to other men and see what kind of partners they have. It's all relative. I don't need to outrun the lion by looking like a body builder and actor, but I need to outrun the other zebra by looking better than the legion of other guys women can pick from. But even when standards of beauty are largely abandoned, I'm still in a bad position. I've yet to meet a man less attractive than myself who has managed to find a partner at this age, or is able to get laid without paying. Interestingly, most girls, despite their looks, are able to do those things with no problem whatsoever. It's hard to defend the idea that it's equally hard for both sexes.

Be in decent shape, kinda obvious, but if you work out some and are not under or over weight then it is much more likely you are attractive. If people complement you on your looks when you don't even ask them.

Do yoga every day! All there is to know

Well, i compare myself to the guys that are found attractive, and compare my luck with women to their. and to not place myself as a 0 ill use some of those soft spoken things ive heard (probably too sweetened up to be true) to not make myself feel that bad.

Someone said something about looking in the mirror. Another good suggestion based on that is look at yourself in the mirror when you are naked and if you feel truly happy with who you are and what you are looking at,, then you are probably attractive (based on confidence alone). Confidence can be conveyed in your physical appearance and this is one of the key traits that attract women.

interesting question. people are not actually very good at determining this, apparently. they consistently rate themselves "above average" which can't be accurate for obvious reasons. if most people are above average, then that must actually be... average.

but ultimately it's kind of irrelevant, because the important part is how you feel inside and also how others respond to you - both of which are usually based on more than just the basic physical appearance.

edit: here is an interesting article:

I basically agree with everyone here so far.

You are only as physically attractive as the preferences of the people you are interested in.

People will tell you - with words, even - if you are attractive. Listen.

Also, attraction is subjective. I think Tom Selleck, George Clooney and Sam Elliot are good looking, my sister goes ga-ga over Bon Jovi (gag...) It just depends on personal preferences.

If you are attractive, people will throw their underwear at you
If you aren't, they will throw an egg!