How do you let instincts take over?

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I think I have a somewhat decent idea of how to tell if a girl is interested in me but I don't know what to say to a girl to show I'm interested or generally progress. I can't get myself to trust what comes to my head when I'm trying to think of what to do, I just keep hesitating even though I have a clear image of how I would say or do it in my head and I'm fairly confident it has a shot.

Every time in my life that I'd done something instinctual(as in limbic-system based rather than acquired logic) or based off of emotion, it screwed me over and I've managed to remove that from my decision making process for almost everything in favor of logic, which has worked much better except in these circumstances. Seems like girls my age don't want logic, they just want you to go primal.

It's likely a confidence thing, I know what I'm doing socially and I have a basic idea of how to keep a conversation going with a girl and they do seem to give me the benefit of the doubt(either that or I'm doing better than I thought) but I can't seem to push myself over the edge to take action.

What can I do?

Testosterone. Do/take whatever you can to boost it. Well maybe not just testosterone, but it's mostly a hormonal thing. IE, if I'm exercising, right, and some girl talks to me, I'm much more apt to just blurt things out without running them through the second guess filter that I'd have while not exercising.

So, I'd say, exercise more to have the hormones and endorphins pumping, and then have a decent diet with oddly enough, a bit of cholesterol and sat. fats, as your body needs those to make hormones (ie, eggs, whole milk.) Then there's various herbs you can take after, if you need them. But I find things "flow" a bit better if I'm exercising regularly and having a good diet with lots of fruits and veggies.

That's the only direct solution I've figured to this problem. The rest would be psychobabble about trusting your feelings or something, when in my case I'm mostly unaware of them.

id also agree with the exercise part you will feel better and look better and be more confident! i also think doing a good weights program boosts test up a fair bit i found i was more successfull. nt's seem to respond to a bigger more muscley person better so i guess thats instinctuall for them

I think you have to balance instinct and logic, that way you cant loose