Trying 1 more dating site...

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...I'm giving this dating site the last chance. I've been trying dating sites for 2 years, and I haven't even made a friend.

If I get no results from this, where people keep ignoring me and making it clear they don't want to talk to me and ignore most questions I ask, then I will give up trying to date.

Why should I keep trying after that if I keep getting shunned down, rejected and ignored?

I've tried about 10 different dating sites, and redone my profiles many times whilst having the accounts, and it makes no difference.

I think I'm destined to be lonely now. I had my one shot at love, and I blew it.

Not what I recall in regard to you blew it.
Anyway I don't use dating websites because I'd rather have the thrill of communicating face to face.
Of course if I had better social skills which will come... in practice + time...
I hardly practice this though but I'm still hopeful.

Last edited by PastFixations on 09 Aug 2012, 6:38 pm, edited 1 time in total.

atleast you had one shot. many of us dont even get that.
me personally, i did the same thing. Tried a new one, nothing came of it and have given up. Profiles are up since deleting them does nothing.

First of all, don't bother trying to make friends on online dating sites. Secondly, no dating sites are as good as the TV ads or the internett banners say they are. If you keep being shunned, is your profile picture accurate? No online dating magazines will tell you so, but it's the most important part of a profile.

Edit: If it makes you feel any better, my aspie grandmother (who was quite good-looking in her youth) didn't have a boyfriend until she was 34. She was married to my grandfather for 50 years before he died.

Have a person you trust take a look at your ad.
These sites are a way to 'advertise' yourself, and you may have not been doing a good job at it.
You may have had 'one chance' so far, but trust me, there will be others. (You're only 21.)
Back in the dark ages I tried answering ads in a personals newspaper. I got one response for every five ads I answered. I met one young lady whom I dated, but it didn't work out.
I met my wife 22 years ago when she sat down beside me in church.
Expand your opportunities to meet men.
Develop female friends who can help you with learning what men look for.
I was rubbish at flirting.

I think the key is to be patient. Keep yourself out there, keep looking for women who might interest you. The longer you stay in the game, the more likely you are to win.

I know it's hard, but don't give up.

Dating sites are kind of a joke. Realistically, hot chicks don't go on dating sites to meet guys and if they are on a dating site, they're gonna be super selective of which guy they go out and meet. The only girls that talk to me when I go on dating sites are the ones who APPEAR attractive in a few of their pictures and then when I get their Facebook, I see that they're actually gross and obese. Not to sound shallow but I have my preferences and I like to know what a girl REALLY looks like if I'm going to date her. I think a thick, curvy woman is as attractive as it gets but theres a difference between being curvy and being "HOLY s**t"

Recently I started going on dating websites again. I joined Plenty Of Fish, which is either extremely high-maintanance girls, "country girls looking for a country boy", or gross obese chicks who know really good camera tricks. I also have had a Vampire Freaks profile for a while because I figure I can meet girls on there that at least KIND OF like metal (my main obsession), but most of the girls on there either shop at Hot Topic and think Linkin Park and KoRn are "br00tal", or they just really like Twilight XD. I just gave up...There are WAY better ways to meet women. Maybe try going to a night club or something with some of your buddies. Of coarse having "swag" is the key, no girl is gonna wanna talk to you unless you're super confident in every move you make. It may take you out of your comfort zone but you'll feel great about yourself after. Good luck

Don't worry about that part, it is near impossible to make friends on a dating site.

I have also not had much luck with females on dating sites. The pool is much smaller, and most of them seem to be on there for different reasons to the majority of men. But I will say that there is probably not much point giving up entirely, if you do have the time and energy to keep at it, because if you are not trying at all then the small chance of meeting a decent woman on there turns into no chance.

P.S. You really ought to change your avatar or something because you keep getting advice as though you are a male

One thing that annoys me about online dating is that it gives the ILLUSION of choice. I eventually figured out that most of the 'decent' women were inactive and hadn't been on the site in months. As well, a good chunk of women on OKCupid at least where I live admit they don't intend to meet anyone in person. Bottom line: many of these women are just looking for an ego stroke and are not dating OR friend material. Certainly take a look but don't waste your time on these sites like I did.

I wouldn't feel bad about not making friends on a dating site, that's not the purpose of it.

Online dating is rigged against guys. Think about it. There are 5 to 10 times more guys than girls. Girls can be as picky as they want and still have a surplus of guys.

Dating sites for most guys are a complete waste of time. If you do not look like a celebrity or are above average in looks you will get very few responses. Instead use your valuable time do things that interest you and avoid dating sites.

Maybe your like me MightyMorphin. I tried lots of dating sites for years & haven't had any luck on them at all. It was extremely rare that a woman would send me a message. I actually had more women message me 1st than who replied to my initial message but conversations didn't last long but those women who were only messaging me for friendship. I think part of my problem was that I didn't have the rite things going for me. Most dating sites usually have a much higher ratio of men than woman so the women have lots of guys to chose from. The 3 girlfriends I had/have I met on forums without even really trying to find them. Maybe your like me & have lots of great qualities that don't get to shine on a dating profile but come out after people get to know your personality a bit; like with me I'm very caring, supportive, loyal, devoted & I did try listing that on my dating profiles for a while but the women had no way of knowing if I really was or if I was just saying BS but when it comes to forums people can kind of pick up on that after reading a lot of my post. There was a lot of luck with it too but I never had that good luck on dating sites.

Post your profile to me and I'll give you some tips.

Many girls get flooded with hundreds of messages on a dating website, your reply needs to stand out from the typical "how are you?" or even the typical white knight comment like telling her she is beautiful, even your profile and photos need to stand out.

THE OP IS A GIRL PEOPLE!!

Yes, girls can have no success on dating sites too!

Also, I'm lesbian. I'm not interested in men. It works out differently for us gays, so I think you need to realise, it's not the same as female looking for male, or male looking for female.

My profiles are fine. All I list is basic information about me, like my age, gender, sexuality, and that I'm looking for dating females between the age of 18-24, that I'm just starting driving lessons and own my own car, I like music, gaming, Doctor Who, Sherlock, and I even put in there SOCIALISING, just so it helps it along, but it doesn't work.

I don't tell people there's anything wrong with me and I don't list it on my profile either.

Even if your profile is the best ever, if people aren't interested in your looks, nothing is going to happen.

I think your profile probably need a rethink, if you post it to me in a private message, I'll give it a look over and add a bit of humour to it. State some more things on your profile? why do you like socializing? how are you a fun person to be around? what fun can you bring to another person? Try to write the profile in a light hearted and concise manner.

The thing about women is that women like a man that is confident and even lesbian women like someone that is confidence in themselves, someone that they can have a fun and positive experience with. Like here I was display my confidence whilst not coming across as arrogant but letting her know that I have many traits that are desirable.

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