What does it feel like to be in love?

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I know that romantic love is facilitated by a brain chemical called phenylethylamine.

What's different about being in love as opposed to not being in love? What does it feel like? How does it influence your outlook on life?

Think drunk but without the motor clumsiness. So I hear.

Love is a neurochemical event, basically.

I feel:
Happy; obsessed.
Somewhat giddy, even.
A more positive outlook on life.
Symptoms can persist for up to six months

I took the anti-parkinson drug l-deprenyl (Selegiline) for a few years at 10 mg daily. Its an irreversible and selective(at 10 mg) MAO-B inhibitor. Which means it prevents
the oxidation of dopamine and phenylethylamine. So in theory I had high levels of
phenylethylamine for a few years. There was a mild sense of well being that made me want to continue the l-deprenyl treatment (experimental social anxiety disorder treatment, that was not usefull for me in a low MAO-B selective dose). Anyway Its
unlikely phenylethylamine alone is responsible for the feeling of love.

It feels like not wanting to kill yourself everday....(thats "real" love)

the other kind is "obsession"...you cant eat,sleep,think about them all the time,willing to do stupid things to be with them or make them happy.They seem to be perfect and beautiful,intelligent and kind.....then you wake up one day and notice they have really bad breath,are often rude and have a stupid sense of humor,their toenails are to long and drive you nuts and they cant do or say anything that makes sense.....sounds fun,huh.A lot like heroin....(or so I have heard)the initial high is so nice that even after it stops making you feel high,you keep trying to get back that feeling.

It's wonderful and mostly indescribable. I didn't experience most of the normal 'symptoms' because I fell in love with my best friend (and seven months later we're still going strong). So it was sort of slower with me. I started noticing more and more all the sweet wonderful cute things he did and my attachment was growing anyway. It seemed natural with us to progress to more than friends. People even thought we were dating before we were. And now he's as often taken for my husband as my boyfriend.

Like dinner after somebody ate it.

Unless the person you love feels the same way, then it's awesome, but that's pretty rare for aspies.

Thought is powerful. If you think you can't then you won't know if you can because you won't try. According to someone, some faceless THEM, we rarely find mutual love. And maybe it's true. Because we are unwilling to try new approaches, unwilling to consider that just maybe being who we really are is key, or maybe that we will find fulfillment in another like us. I've found out all of this, first-hand, and now I have someone.

It's what you make it to be. don't be asking others on their opinions, because love differs for everyone.