Why would anyone want a boyfriend/girlfriend for anything

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other than sex? Seriously. Males and females don't see eye to eye and never will, so why bother?

You pretty much answered it in your first sentence. >_>

I like guys, sometimes too much, 'nuff said.

For the combined benefits of conformity and obeying human instinct. >.>

It's all really for the sake of the emotional thrill involved in pursuing a deep, passionate relationship with another individual. Which some people simply can't handle.

Very good question.

I guess it's for the challenge. There's a certain difficulty to attaining the social status of being in a relationship.

But yes, the incompatibility issue between the sexes makes it difficult. I've asked myself if relationships are even worth it.

I have never really understood this myself. My hierarchy is:

1. friend
2. friend w/ benefits
3. boyfriend/girlfriend
4. husband/wife

The vast majority of people go from #1 directly to #3.

Tim

We pursue relationships because there is an element of thrill and euphoria associated with them--and for some of us (like me) we can't turn our backs on it no matter how many times we get hurt. Because those feelings--THAT feeling of being so passionate, and so close with someone--it is worth putting your ass on the line everytime.

If you look at the studies, the number one thing humans rank in life as a "completing factor" is finding their soulmate, life partner, or however you want to phrase it.

It's not all about sex.

It's about finding someone you are totally at ease with, and joining forces with them to face the world. Love, friendship, trust, security, comfort, help, advice, support, humour, experience. Complimentary knowledge, skills and characteristics. An acceptance of faults and limitations.

Sex is the icing on the relationship cake. One night stands are nowhere near as great as sex with someone you know completely. Bear this in mind.

Feeling that you are really close to somebdy,, somebody loves you .... about me personally i need that feeling but am sure in a way much less than NT's

It's all part of becoming socially aware.

Companionship

Why would anyone want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend if it was *just* sex???

Seriously. I'm a virgin...And I love my boyfriend, we get along great and have been together since last February. You can't have a successful relationship unless you can find someone who you'd want to be with, with or without sex.

It maybe statistically more challenging to find a person of the opposite gender that shares your interests and way of thinking,but not impossible.My boyfriend and I have a lot in common.I dont drag him to the mall to shop and he doesn't force me to watch sports.We both enjoy"alternative" movies,history channel,books and music.I have always gotten along better with males because their way of processing emotions,using logic to solve problems is similar to my way of processing....then again,probably because I'm an aspie female.

Just try not to assume all females are giddy,superficial,shopoholics.We are....individuals,if you look hard enough,you will find someone with whom you share interests.I do think it is a waste of time for me to be with someone who does not share my interests and general perspective and goals.I hate to fight,so for me,opposites are not attractive.(I enjoy debating but don't want to argue about not having children or buying a gas guzzling car)

I never wanted a significant other because mainly I was scared that I would get hurt. But now I want someone to love me..not sexually...but for ME. And I want to love,too. And I DO love...but in a different way...but I've only REALLY been in love TWICE in my entire life.

I guess I want a significant other because I am in love with love,which is probally bad. I want to love like I loved those other two girls,and have the love returned.


-SpaceCase