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I dont like the sex part i would prefer only companionship, courting, flowers, care, love but not
the sexual part
anyone else feels the same

The parts of being in a relationship I miss most are the bits you've mentioned but I don't feel exactly the same. I think if the other parts were present, I could probably manage beautifully without sex. On the other hand, without the companionship, care and love (I don't really care about flowers) I'm not so interested in the sex anyway.
Basically I mean that it depends on the person and the relationship whether sex is an issue. Maybe?

when the companionship, talking, love, gifts etc starts fading away then the relationship becomes so menial its only the occassional sex that remains in it the courtship, romance, craziness, everything in initial stages keeps the fire burning for me i love the attention part

Because "God" loves irony, especially when it is cruel.

I relate to that but I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum. I desire companionship, affection, emotional intimacy/closeness ect but my desire for sex is kind of dependent on my partner's desire for it. I'm fine not having sex till my partner talks about wanting to & I then start thinking about it a lot due to OCD & then I want to do that.

Not really. I'm feeling the whole companionship and love thing. But sex is good.

Ironic tho isn't it, girls with ASD don't want sex.
Guys with ASD want sex, a large majority of them can't though because of their poor social skills.

I'm on the asexual spectrum. I befriended my hand on facebook and set our status as 'in a relationship'.

I'm bi-a-sexual. Left hand, right hand.

There are plenty of Aspie girls who like sex & there are plenty of Aspie guys who aren't as into it but they don't talk about it as much due to women in general not wanting sex as much as men. Women who aren't as into sex generally have a harder time finding sexual compatibility in a partner than guys who don't want sex as much

Last edited by nick007 on 22 Jan 2012, 5:37 am, edited 1 time in total.

HELL NO, i want the secks too. i have seen both male and female posters on WP speak of asexusality, hypersexuality, average-range sex drive, fetishes, etc. we're all over the place.

I'm a little the opposite I don't like to get emotionally close to people. I can't handle having an actual relationship so I find it easier only having sex and nothing else. I've given up on getting married and having kids I really like my space more than I'm willing to ever sacrifice. My only fear is getting pregnant. I'm super safe about sex on an almost OCD paranoid level. If I were to get fixed 75% of my anxieties over sex would gone. I'd be more willing to have more sex than I do, right now I just kinda causally get laid it's not often enough. I've recently come to terms with the fact that the chemistry needed to make me comfortable in a relationship is extremely difficult to obtain few exist that would be a fit for me, and I may not get married in my life time. Right now I've only ever met one person who fit the personality chemistry with me and that man is 22 years older than me. He lived the kind of life I feel comfortable with. He has no children and pursued a career he was passionate about. We're only friends but he's acknowledged the fact that if we were aged in the same decade he'd want a relationship. I wonder if I'll ever find a young man as special as him. I think I'll be one of those people who gets married in their 40s. Which I personally have no problem with.

True story, when i was a naive youngin, I had a councilor trick me into going to an autism school, she said all the girls there were hypersexual. Well at least that school was better than the other alternatives they gave me like adelphoi.

I'm certainly shy towards sex but I wouldn't really rule it out of a relationship.

im attracted towards certain men but would like to just talk with them, have them as friends and not get into sex.
i dont know whether this is something abnormal with me

I think it's a good sign. Relationships where sex is the main thing usually just fizzle out and die very quickly but ones where the sex isn't important at all last a lot longer. I don't think there's nothing abnormal about that. I'm the same really.

I would like sex in a relationship but have issues over the fact that things can are pretty 'normal'/enjoyable to others give me sensory overload which is a bit unpleasant; I'm trying to find someone I fit well with in the other ways mentioned and will hopefully be accommodating about my sensory differences.

If it were possible to find such a person in time, I'd love to have children with them but as there are very few people in the right age range who would be a good fit then I don't really know if this will happen, and I definitely would not be happy with someone whom I didn't fit well with.

Nope, I'm the opposite. I'm iffy on the companionship but *really* want the sex.