Appearance and Fashion Tips for Asperger's Men

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Fashion and appearance tips can really help as we all know appearance can play a major part in initial attraction.

Pinstripe suits and vertically striped dress shirts will can add height to your body.

Dress in proportion to your body, wear clothes that show you are confident in your body.

Start working out and going to the gym to obtain a desirable body.

If required, grow a facial hair style but keep it trimmed or be clean shaven, try different styles until you find one that makes you look most desirable.

Hair style is important, go to a hair stylist and ask for the best type of style that will suit your head.

Put a picture of someone you aspire to be like on your wall, this could be anyone that is perceived as attractive by Hollywood standards.

Avoid wearing logo shirts, polo shirts and trainers.

If you have a tall body type, try breaking it up by mixing the colours up, a double breasted blazer that is tailored to fit would be worth looking into and remember to go for vertical stripes.

Watch the body language of confident actors in films such as Oceans Eleven.

If you do wear glasses, get a fashionable rimless or square rimmed pair or start wearing contact lenses.

If you are pale, think about tanning or at least looking into a tanning shop.

Watch actors and films and try to copy their style, for example Ocean's Eleven or Ryan Gosling.

Again, dressing in proportion is important when it comes to jackets, a jacket that is too short will emphasize a taller and leaner build and a jacket that is too long or baggy will make you look like a potato sack.

With a short few tips, you could go from this:



To this

What type of girl are they trying to attract?

I suggest....be clean, wear clothes without holes that fit you and make you feel good about yourself.

didnt i make this thread last week?

Better than all this advice? Develop your personality. And i can see the op will make assumptions, just don't bother, I have no problem attracting girls...

Tbh, this advice is advice on how to look like you came off a conveyor belt... Which is fine if you have no imagination, just all that look is good for is attracting equally vacant girls. No thanks.

If i was a girl i'd go for the asian guy in the casual clothes over the guys trying too hard easy.... Trying too hard is a big turn off...

You should add in that some of that clothing advice will tank hard unless you're wearing it in the right kind of context. You wear any of that kind of clothes (both the before and after pictures) in, for example, a punk rock crowd, and you're just gonna embarrass yourself unless you've got a silver tongue (in which case the clothes would be quite irrelevant).

[edit] Or be wearing a suit like this link!

Everything else looks good, really.

i mistook the "before" picture for an "after" picture. that's a business casual outfit and it looks fine to me.

I guess I agree with most of wolfheart's list, though I think tanning is bad for a person's health.

As a woman, my advice for men concerning their appearance:

Don't try to look just like every other guy in the world. Wear stuff that feels like "you" or attracts the kind of people you are going for (but only if no certain style feels best to you.). Personality is very important, but looks will are important for getting you noticed and remembered. You don't need to have the perfect face shape, etc. I'm just saying, cleanliness and clothing go a long way.

I look on dating sites and most guys look kind of the same to me. Some might be great to talk to or maybe cuddle, but they don't really make me want to look at them or think about doing "stuff" with them...

Yes, some people don't seem to care much for how a person looks. This is just my opinion. Remember that when someone first sees you, you can make a strong, lasting impression on them before you even open your mouth.

I prefer the clothes on the first man.
A suit and sunglasses?
How pretentious is that?

I prefer pale skin, or at least someone who doesn't look like an old leather shoe.
Which is exactly what tanning will do.
I won't say anything about bottled tans, other than Oompa Loompa.

i think some of the OP's advice can work, like dressing for one's body type and getting a hairstyle that suits them.

i mostly prefer for men to wear what they are comfortable in, and if that is a jacket it could work. but very few people look comfortable all dressed up. other pics of ryan gosling, who i *think* is the guy in the third picture:



he's dressed differently in these pics. nothing wrong with that - the ladies seem to like it too. he seems comfortable in a wide variety of outfits.

(p.s. if i went into a guy's bedroom and he had a picture of a man up on his wall i'd wonder if he was batting for the other team. actually, if he had a picture of a female up then i'd think he was kind of sexist. hmmmmm maybe skip putting up pictures of non-family members).

Wolf, I got a question for you. I've pretty much had a complete wardrobe redesign since high school. In high school and before, all my clothes looked like crap, as my mom bought them at Walmart, but I'm generally kinda rough on clothes, so they'd be resewn by me (my mom didn't know how to sew really) and then a lot of my other clothes were, say, surplus military clothes, cuz I liked them. I also had a phase where I liked military surplus clothes and plain black tshirts, but people got wrong ideas about me (ie, school shooter type stuff) from wearing that sorta stuff, so I stopped.

Now I'm pretty much at the opposite extreme, I wear "preppy" clothes. You know, Hilfiger, American Eagle, Abercrombie, Polo, all that kinda stuff. I buy it used for quite cheap and good condition at Salvation Army or Goodwill. Honestly, they're quite good clothes. I've noticed the more expensive brand shirts tend to actually fit better than, say, a cheap brand Hanes shirt. Like they make you look less fat kinda fit better.

But, the problem comes. I feel like, people, while just on chance encounters judge me more favorably based upon me wearing "preppy" kinda clothes, and see me more as a "normal person" if that makes sense. So in essence, dressing like that is camouflage. But I feel like the problem is, people make their initial impression of me, but then when they talk with me, I don't like....match, if that makes sense. Like I look pretty "bro" or "preppy" I guess, and then people talk to me, and they're confuzzled because it's not my personality type at all. Have you run into such a problem as this? I don't have any issues with the clothing, and it's genuinely nice clothing and I enjoy wearing it, but like, should I wear "nerdier" clothes so people think I'm a "nerd" or what? Or screw it all, they're just clothes I buy for like a dollar, and they just cover my body. Heh, no idea.

Anyway, if I can add a tip, regarding being confident about your body. I'd say 99% of the time, do NOT wear loose shirts and clothing. This was one of my issues. I'd wear all kinds of loose clothes because I was overweight, but then it just ends up that you look more overweight, as you're trying to cover the fat "lines" with the clothes, but the clothes themselves are loose and add more like, mass to your figure, if that makes sense, and people still see your bodyfat levels in your face anyway. If you do wear looser clothes, I feel the best strategy is have either the top or bottom of you loose or tight, and the other the opposite. IE, looser fitting shirt and then tighter pants, or vice versa. I mean in my case, I can pretty much wear a medium of most brands of shirts, sometimes even a small in some brands, and wearing a large in most any brand looks dumb on me.

EDIT:
Wolf, in regard to proportion, I have a question. I have huge legs and a huge butt, but my upper body is pretty average/small. I'm like a meso-endo somatotype, I guess. Generally I wear 34x30 or 36 jeans, I was in 32s before squatting, I don't believe I'll ever be in 32s again even if I get to a low bodyfat level. And again, usually medium tshirts, sometimes small, almost never large shirts. So should I in your opinion, wear looser jeans or tighter ones? Girls have commented on my huge butt positively, but it's always been something I've felt in the back of my mind like, odd about. And again, loose clothes sometimes make you look fatter, I feel like I fit best in looser 34s and tighter 36s.

The only tip I really like is the ' go to the gym' tip, because that really has results, somewhat.
I've going to the gym for 4 months now and I must say that I like what my body is becoming, despite the fact that developing muscles isn't even my true purpose for going to the gym.
Instead of a fat body I now have either a muscled fat body or a fat muscled body, depending on your view mostly.
So yes, if people feel like gaining some muscles I suggest you go to the gym. But not for attracting the women, like so many others do ( and believe me, there are a lot of show-offs in my gym), but just to feel good about yourself or because you want to become stronger or etc.

If putting a photo up of Arnold Schwarzengger gives you the drive and confidence to train hard, do it. If posting a putting up a photo of Ryan Gosling gives you the same confidence level as him, do it.

I will respond more later to the other messages.