Becoming the Alpha Aspie: The Five Steps

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Becoming the Alpha Aspie: The Five Steps

Step 1: Stop giving power to everything or anything that claims it

That's right, stop giving power to that person who said you would never make it, stop giving power to those people who disrespected you in school, stop giving power to someone you met five minutes ago, stop giving it to someone who most likely insecure themselves. Start defining your own character, start defining yourself and start believing in yourself, nobody is going to believe in you if you don't believe in yourself. Let go of that control of who you should or shouldn't be and start becoming the person you really want to be.

Step 2: Stop placing women on a pedestal.

Yes, this means stop placing them on a pedestal literally, stop p**** footing around women like they are special princesses or being a white knight. Stop compromising yourself, stop treating them like you owe them something and start valuing yourself. People can be cruel, women included so don't feel afraid to be bold. Women will try get a hold if your balls if you let them, show them who is boss. You are logical people, start using that logic instead of emotion when it comes to the opposite sex.

Step 3: Want confidence like Hollywood stars or Vegas high roller?

Want to have the confidence like Hollywood stars? When you have to do something that requires confidence, imagine stepping into that person, imagine becoming them and seeing through them, feel the confidence they feel, assume you are confident, assume that things will go your way. Negativity is an obstacle to stop your from achieving your goal, go hard and fight with all might against negativity, maintain a positive outlook and you can overcome.

Step 4: Stop obsessing over that girl or the one!

That means stop obsessing over your old high school crush that doesn't remember your name, stop obsessing over the girl you see at college or work, stop fixating on one girl, stop wasting your time on something that open. If you knock on one door and it doesn't open, go knock on ten others and if that doesn't work, go knock on another ten and if that fails go knock on another hundred. Keep analysing what you are doing right and wrong, ask a friend or someone close what they think you are doing wrong. Chances are after a few dates, you'll realize that one girl was the same as thousands of other girls.

Step 5: Learn to convey positive traits.

You know the one thing greater than a guy with confidence? it's a person who can take the odd joke without taking themselves seriously, it's the person who can convey they are a fun and exciting character to be around, the person you want to know more about. How are you making women want to know you more? what are you conveying to them? do you have an exciting lifestyle? how can you enrich their life whilst enriching your own? how can you elevate yourself? what can you give? Are you like every other generic guy out there or do you stand out?

First step is action. Meaning live the real life, not virtual one. The more experiences with people, the more despise of most of them leading to becoming an alpha

Great post Wolfheart! I believe in myself and have self-confidence but I do place women on pedestals and I tend to let negative thoughts take hold from time to time. You ask some very good questions in step 5 and I'll certainly think about what I can give to a relationship. Perhaps this thread should be stickied?

Step 4 was definitely a wake-up call for me. Keep in mind as well that the steps don't necessarily have to follow in order, as I know a few people who can do Step 5 no problem, but are bogged down by 2 and 4. Great post, Wolfheart!!

Wouldn't part of being an Alpha have to do with being muscular? I know it doesn't necessarilly have to, but I always assume talks of alphas are talking about jocks.

Agreed... apparently the Endomorph, Octomorph and Mesomorph are not only different body types but also have common mental traits too. We thin Ectomorphs will just unlikely be a typical, aggressive Alpha because of our general nature. (I'm beginning to think my biggest issues stem from that, and less about AS!)

We can still learn to be more assertive and not be walked on by those who are more dominant by nature and habit.

Yay for being sorta kinda meso.

Well i wouldn't be considered skinny anymore, I look fairly athletic. I respect others as much as they respect me, have had minor issues with authority because of that.

What is wrong with you? You do know that not everyone with AS is male, don't you?

Being Alpha would only make sense in the context of a pack; to compete with other males for leadership. Fortunately and as an obvious evidence for evolution, hardly anyone still lives under such conditions.

Your statements revolve around self--confidence and are not necessarily wrong, though not exactly new. However, you should change the title since it conveys a false impression. I'd suggest something like "How to become a strong and independent personality."

I can believe in myself all I want but as long as many people are superficial and only look at the books cover before they choose-it means nothing-and what about girls ho like girls and guys who like guy-these things may not work with them.

Sometimes I think about the alpha way and I just get tired of it, since its so obvious and relies on manipulation. It definitely improves your odds though.

I think a lot of these points will definitely improve one's chances, but you simply cannot alter how you look or what people find attractive. That also plays a part in being alpha. So when taking these points onboard, do be realistic with how far they can get you and try to avoid any sort of entitlement with girls or other guys regardless of what league you think you are in and they are in.

I think we shouldn't pay as much attention to the loaded "alpha" word, and rather look at the five points Wolfheart mentioned. Good post.

That all seems like pretty good advice to become an Alpha Male (it seems to be for males in particular and doesn't seem to be for Aspies in particular, so I changed the name).

I would just change this part

to either:

"Some women will try to get a hold of your balls if you let them", i.e. the Alpha Women or whatever they are called; or
"Believe that women will try to get a hold of your balls if you let them", because it's really your attitude towards women (not necessarily the truth) that makes you a better Alpha Male.

Step 3 sounds pretty ridiculous to me. Why on earth would you want to try and emulate someone else. It goes against the idea of free thinking and being your own person. Don't pretend to be something that you're not, doesn't normally work out too well in the long run.