A situation with friends

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I'm in a bit of a situation I could use some advice with. This might be a bit long and confusing. I'll try to make it make sense..

I have a friend who I'm pretty close to. We haven't known each other long but we became really good friends really quickly when she started working at my job (one of the few people this "click" has ever happened with). Our relationship is kind of like a brother-sister type one. We argue and make fun of each other. We meet up socially outside of work sometimes and she'll always text me saying she's excited to see me or something.
Another colleague who people have said has a crush on me keeps pointing out how flirtatious this girl is with me. This other colleague is always making innuendo jokes and in my opinion, inappropriate comments towards me. He's gay, married to his husband and is a lot older than me. We're quite good friends as well. He's said to people that he has a crush on me but I don't know if this was a joke or not.

The second colleague keeps pointing out that the first one likes me. He's always saying how she wants to have sex with me and how she wants to be "friends with benefits". I don't usually trust the feelings I get from people, and people would need to strip their clothes off and declare their love for me before I got an inkling they liked me..but these conversations make me uncomfortable. I like the relationship I have with the first colleague. We have fun and I just don't want her to like me that way because romantic/sexual feelings aren't something I feel much of and things tend to get awkward. We also both have boyfriends and personally, I'm in a long term relationship that I'm happy in.

Every time I see the first friend now, I have the other's words ringing in my ears and it makes me act awkward around her. I don't want to bring it up but I don't know if I should? Basically I don't know what I'm asking but I'd like to know if there's anything else I can do other than retreat into my own little world where people don't have sex and human beings aren't so bloody complicated..

she might well like you ive had people tell me this a few times i cant even tell though but ive already acted on my it before they said anything. this isnt always the cases though so from now on i try to make a move on most girls that show slight interested but this doesnt happen much

Wait until others approach ypu about it.


If the flirting is so obvious someone will.

Just so you have an idea when I was at a similar situation I know no one else and ignored it. some people approached me about it and I took it as a joke.
In the end her best friend started with "the joke" as well.

I did mothing about it but I realised a lot of people staet notucing and I should pay more attention to them if so