so I'm confused, help me out

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Well I've been "seeing" this guy lately, never said if its dates or whatever, just hanging out, talking etc and sometimes hug for hello and bye. But I'm not really good with people usually, but he doesn't seem to care much and dosn't act like i'm being weird or anything which, some people do.
He's a good looking guy and we can geek out together lol.
So I got to really like him and I told him I like him more than a friend and he said he does too and we hugged but thats all. Then later when we see eachother more times he is pretty flirty and tels me I'm pretty and stuff and we say again that we like each other.
But I still don't know really what we're up too because we haven't talekd about the whole relationship issue really.
But all is well right? Wrong I guess.
Today I heard him saying to somebody else right where he must have knew I could hear, that he likes this other girl (who i thought was taken anyways but whatever) and that they might go to the lake on the long weekend next week. So my jaw just about hits the floor.
I feel really sad and hurt Now I know we didn't agree anything but we said we liked each other and I thought he was really flirty so why isn't he asking me out instead.... he just goes and says he's taking some other girl wear I can hear. I mean should't he at least say if he doesn't want to date me??
So did I screw something up here, or get something wrong, or is he being a d*ck, or what??

Doesnt sound like the game is over.

Make a move.

You might have to reverse roles a little bit- like ask him out one time on a date-type-date. Maybe try to kiss him. Like one time -just to send a romantic signal. See what happens.

Atleast youll have the right to feel jealous since you will have staked the claim on him (so to speak). Then let him make the next move.
Then your relationship will evolve however it evolves- or devolves.

I dunno.
Id rather regret doing the wrong thing than regret failing to try to something.

Yea you maybe right, what if he just doesn't know how much I like him and thinks I didn't want to really date him??
But still....
isn't it just a LITTLE bit d*ckish doing that? You know talking about going with her when I was there?
As if there wasn't anything going on with us at all..?

A lot of dudes are superficial and have only one thing on their mind. Maybe she is an easy piece of tail? Maybe he has the "player" syndrome?

Just forget about him.... he very clearly is a complete jerk if he's trying to get a girl that already is taken (if he knows it, anyway), and just disregarded you that way, after what you described had happened.... sounds like a "player" guy to me. Those are some of the worst scum of the Earth. From the sound of it, you are very lucky to have gotten away so easily (or at least, I hope nothing bad happened to you, after this :/ ).

while him being worth your time is definitely debatable (as noted above), I have noticed that some people occasionally try to make other people express their feelings by making them jealous.

I guess the logic goes:
1) unsure how person A feels and/or wishing they would make a move
2) decide that if they care about you they will be motivated into making a move if they see their potential future with your threatened.
3) deliberately talk about or flirt with someone else in their presence.

*shrug*

at this point I'd usually give up but I'm also really bad at this stuff.