Screw you, Facebook.

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Ugh, I'm so embarrassed. I just recently started seeing this guy... I've been single for a long time, and I don't think he's ever even had a girlfriend... but his best friend is a girl (she has a boyfriend, so it really isn't anything to worry about)... but as soon as I started thinking maybe the two of us hanging out was going to go somewhere romantic, I started obsessing and over-thinking (of course)...

So I was looking for all sorts of dating advice online. I wound up reading an article called "Your Guy Has a Female Best Friend. Are You OK With It?" ...one of my weaker moments, yes... and it posted that I'd read it TO MY FACEBOOK FEED.

Understand that I'm only just starting to get to know this guy now. He and his friend have been friends for years. I feel like a creepy jerk. What does this look like? ... I guess it looks like exactly what it is... that I'm obsessing over it. I'm so embarrassed. I'm friends with both of them on Facebook, and they probably saw the dumb article that I read.

It's just... I am ok with my partner having female friends (not that he's even my partner yet!). I have some very close male friends. I just have trust issues about getting cheated on, I guess. I'm aware of them. I just don't know how embarrassed I should be... is it less of a big deal than I'm making it out to be?

Just... screw you, Facebook. Screw you.

I'm not a FB fan. Anyhow, maybe you're being too hard on yourself. At times, while perusing the internet, I read any given article that I would not ordinarily read. This does not mean I 'believe' that article or even have more than a passing interest.

I hope your new guy doesn't take your FB feed personally - and why should he? If he does ask (and he might not), just tell you what you wrote here: that you're OK with his female friend. It might not be a big deal after all. No need for you to be embarrassed. (I'm sure worse thing have happened)!

Personally, I don't much like FB because I don't need people (aka 'friends'), many of whom I barely even know (!) get to pick and choose what I might be associated with. And I don't like being a social media statistic either.

For me, the Wrong Planet is the Aspie FB I have Wrong Planet friends whom I truly like/trust because I do know them via writing and shared experiences. FB could never begin to approach that. (Plus, our WP topics are lots more interesting than 'liking' some stranger's inane comment).

Well, don't worry cmoonbean1. If he really is your friend, it won't matter.

Thanks for your kind words. Facebook does get quite stressful sometimes, with all the focus on image... everyone's projecting their fabricated personae all the time... I think it's this image-focused online culture that makes me worried about what he and she might think of some passing thing... I read way too far in to things I see on Facebook, maybe because it's such limited, superficial information... I pick it apart and get overwhelmed by the possibilities...

Maybe I'm just assuming others will do the same. 0.o Issues of Theory of Mind, perhaps?

Maybe I should quit Facebook again.

This is one of the things I don't like about facebook, there seems to be the need now for it to be integrated with everything. But it only posts the articles you have read if you have the app of the media outlet installed. Just go to apps-more then select edit then remove that pesky app!

Ooo, thank you for the advice! I shall do this. <:-}

Isn't there an option to remove a facebook post? I've done it a few times to stuff that I didn't want showing up there.

Just make sure you dont read an article about how to dispose of the body of your boyfriends female friend. That would get way more awkward:)

This doesn't really sound like Facebook's fault...

Now Facebook forcing everyone to use the Timeline format...THAT'S a good reason to say "screw you".

The answer is simple:

"I saw the article and wanted to see if other people agreed with me that it's ok to have opposite sex best friends."

Look upon it as a chance to go on double dates, and don't worry, I doubt he'll invite her along on your romantic time together.

Ah, that sucks. I'm sorry. He hasn't said anything about it, though, has he? Don't beat yourself up about it.

I wouldn't worry about it too much since the last time I was on FB, they had set up that algorithm that chooses what to show you and doesn't show everything... I haven't used FB for most of this year though - I really don't enjoy it - I don't find it nearly as interactive as WP. He probably didn't see it, and even if he did, he might not even have thought about it in the context of you guys. But he would have probably brought it up if he was upset about it.