Nothing in common with women I like most?

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Is it really necessary to have a lot in common for people to like each other?
Is it possible for there to be a certain 'chemistry' that surpasses those bounds?
I'm asking, because I have no experience in this matter...
Is it really hard to have a romantic relationship with someone when you have very little in common? Even if you understand each other?

Just curious.

I dont think people need common interests, or even similar personalities.
what they need to share is values, and a desire to understand the other person,

They need a determination/interest in finding a way to communicate and get close. Then they can be chalk and cheese.

"Chemistry" is a catch-all BS phrase when you don't want to admit that you either don't find someone attractive or you simply don't like them. Men are not chemistry sets and in romantic context, the term wasn't even used until the rise of online dating.

There's no catch all answer here.

Sometimes it works great, sometimes it's a clusterf**k.

For example, if I dated a hermit early raiser, that would be a cluster f**k because I like to sleep in and go out.

My friend has nothing in common with his gf and they have been engaged some time. It's possible I guess. Wouldn't you rather have just a couple of things in common to glue the foundations together, though? Because to me if I have nothing in common with a girl but I'm attracted to them the logical answer would be I want to sleep with them and nothing else. That's not really long term material, even if sex strengthens a relationship.

I have some things in common with my fiance but at the same time, there are lots of things we don't have in common. We just 'clicked' if that makes sense. Something about us getting together felt right. It is extremely difficult for me to describe but I do believe you'll know what I mean the day you ( and this other person) experience it. I have had this feeling a couple of times with people. Yes that would mean that some of my relationships haven't worked out but hey, you have to start somewhere. Some people find 'the one' from meeting one person, others meet quite a few before that happens, but again hey, it's all good experience.

I find that people can still click with one and other without having loads of things in common. It seems unrealistic for me to expect someone to share nearly all of my interests, I would have to have some things in common with someone though, otherwise there's not much to talk about is there? Other factors come into play though, such as personality styles and general attraction.

I don't think Ive even meet some one that share any of my interest with the exception of engineers.

Why do you like her/him?

I think having some common interests are important. You don't necessarily have to like each one the other person has and vice versa...
Chemistry is important in terms of being the first step... after that though there has to be a common ground and you'll know that when you realise whether you connect well enough.

If the person is a mirror of you, then wouldn't that be boring? Difference is good.