Went on a date, what next?

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So yesterday I got set up with this guy through a friend of my mother's. We went out to eat, and then later to the state fair because he works there. I though it really worked out well because I could talk to him easily, he seemed like a really nice guy, and we had a lot in common. Later that day, my mom told me that he has AS. His mom told him that I have AS. I guess that I'm fine with that since he doesn't seem to be bothered by it. I went to a concert with my family last night, and he asked me to go running with him after the concert. I said yes, so this will be sort of a second date. I'm a bit worried because the last time I dated someone, it ended horribly, and I chose not to date for a long time after this. I hope I don't screw this up like I did last December. I haven't ever dated a guy with AS, so I'm used to NT men. He is also more than two years older than the last guy I dated. The last guy I dated was 16(now 17) and the current one is 19. Does age make a difference? Does anyone have any advice of how AS vs. NT dating is different, if at all? I can't say I have feeling for this guy because it is way to early to tell, but I at least want to go on a few more dates with him because I'm interested. I've talked to him today via text message and I'll see him again on Monday. I don't have much experience with dating, and I don't want to mess up. Advice would be greatly appreciated!
-Einfari

the age gap isnt that big a deal tbh he might be a bit more mature then the last guy. just take it how it goes get to know him better and see if you like him.
i hope it works out though, id like to see what it would be like to be with a girl with AS as all the NT'S ive been with havent really been nice people

I'd say just play it by ear and see how it goes. Right now, it's just casual dating and not a relationship so take it one day at a time and don't read more into it than what you see on the surface. If you enjoy being with him, then there's no need not to continue dating him. Just take it one day at a time.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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Just get to know him better and see how it works out. His age isn't an issue and his AS may not be either.
Everyone worries about messing up, including him. If he really likes you, any mistake by you that involves something less than the loss of a limb will most likely be overlooked by him.

Good luck

If he seems like a cool guy then give him a chance. As both of you have AS, you will both be a little awkward and make mistakes, but both of you will likely be more forgiving because you both have the same problem. With both of you being aspies, it is a lot less likely that either of you would cheat because you both will likely be fairly loyal people should you form a bond.