Holy crap, the world IS gonna end soon. :P

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So this will be kind of a long story. I met a girl 2 years ago on a forum dedicated to a gaming series we both love. We started out talking in the chatroom there, and it progressed to us talking over FB/Windows Live Messenger. Well over this period of time I started getting a crush on her because she was totally different from every other girl I knew. She was incredibly sweet, almost non-judgmental, doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, and we even have the same views on religion and politics. And she has an adorable little daughter who she is an awesome mother to. She's quite the looker, too (which I didn't find out until later, after I'd already started liking her), which is also a plus.

The big problem keeping me from telling her that I liked her was that she lives about 5 states over from me. And at the time, I had no transportation to go see her. On top of that, I didn't want to have the same thing that happened 4 years ago happen again (I can tell you guys the details of that if you'd like me to, but I'm short on time right now). So I never told her I liked her. She did tell me once though that if we ever met, she would like to date me. But I kept trying to meet girls more close to home, to no avail. During that time we talked on the phone a few times and even did video chat a couple times, if I recall. She's one of those types who thinks she's ugly, but is really a very beautiful girl, inside and out. So I started making a point to remind her every once in a while. She never complained or called me creepy for it, so it made it easier for me to throw some good words her way.

So, fast forward to about a year later. Her "baby daddy" comes back into the picture after I lost contact with her for a long time due to not having internet, and he promised that he was a changed man. So to prove it, he married her. And then kicked her into the dirt, which I still can't forgive the guy for. It was around this time I became homeless, so I couldn't talk to the girl anymore. At least not for a few months.

Then I found a place to live and started coming to the library to get on the internet. Her and the "baby daddy" are pretty much not talking anymore. Well, we started talking again, and after 2 years I finally told her that I liked her and I really wished she was around so I could help her and treat her like the sweet person she was. She didn't really say much about it except that she was sick of as*holes. Then on FB she started posting these pictures, one said something like "you give me that feeling that only people in novels have" and a little before that she posted one about girls building up walls so they don't get hurt. THEN a few days ago she posted this song that made it pretty obvious she liked someone.

So the next day (a couple days ago) she posts a status update that said "I like you but I'm too afraid to tell you." My heart instantly skipped a beat. I didn't know for sure if she was talking about me or not, because there are other guys that like her, so I tried to find out if it was one of those other guys (we played this cute little game to find out lol). I found out it wasn't, and that it was me. I was very surprised. We had a long discussion about quite a few things, but now I wanna find some way so that either I can go see her or she can come up here to see me.

Best part is, she knows about my deafness and my other peculiarities but doesn't care and doesn't judge. I don't judge the very few flaws she has, either. They are extremely minor things. I don't remember if I told her about my Asperger's, but I'm pretty sure I told her at one point a couple years ago.

I am a pretty happy man as far as that goes right now; I just wish she were here. I went to the fair yesterday and had just enough tickets to where I could have taken her and her daughter. Maybe next year, huh?

But yeah, I never thought in a million years that a girl this perfect would even begin to like me back. It's an awesome feeling.

That sounds like a nice story. I for one am happy for you.

That sounds absolutely fantastic! I'm really happy this happened. Kind of gives hope to the rest of us.

WOOOOOOooooOOOOOOOooooooOOOOOOT!! !! sounds like things are going swimmingly!

Is anything there for you if things don't work out if you go see her?

The main reason I posted this is because before now, I was pretty much hopeless in the girl department. But if it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone. I'm just glad it was this girl and not one of the ones I liked previously. As I said, I've liked her for so long. It just sucks that she's that far away. And it's a little ironic as well.

I have a couple friends who live in the same state, otherwise, no. I would go see her now, but I still have to help my mom, who is continuing to make it harder and harder for me to help her, because of her repeatedly spending our money (which is SUPPOSED to be for rent) on other stuff. :/

That's wonderful news. I'm very happy for you.

Love to hear good news! Tell us how things go...

Congratulations.

AAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
DialAForAwesome, that was so sweet! Sorry if I'm being embarrassing but what you wrote is just so romantic, and even more so because its true. You just made my whole day brighter. I wish you and Dream Girl the best of luck and an ocean full of happiness. From what you wrote and how you said, you both deserve it!

I figured I should maybe kinda post an update of what's going on. I found out that where I work has an equivalent where she lives, that's in the same family, so I can transfer there if I want to.

But......there's a couple things going on. Mainly, she seems kinda distant. She's seemed that way ever since a few days ago. She still tells me she hopes we can see each other someday soon, but something feels....off. She did get a new job a while ago, which she isn't starting until next month.

I won't let this distance discourage me too much, I suppose. It seems like everything is pointing in the direction of it going well, even if it doesn't go well right now. Just a while back, before I found out she liked me, I read a story about this couple who met online, became friends through FB, and finally met in real life 3 years later. They are now engaged. And I read this story right when I really felt hopeless about it. Had some other "signs" I guess you could call 'em, slap me right in the face.

A couple years ago, I didn't want to try this out at all. I promised to talk about this later, but I had something happen 4 years ago that still sticks with me. I met a girl online when I was in college and had no transportation. I was in college full-time at the time. Basically what happened was, her best friend didn't like me, and did everything in her power to sabotage the whole thing. She kept telling her I didn't care about her since I wasn't online all the time. She eventually succeeded in messing it up and the girl stopped talking to me. So when I got back on FB, I get a long message from her friend talking about how "abusive" (lol what?) I was and how I should be dead, things like that. So I blocked her. And then I vowed never to try to meet women online again.

But I met this girl I like now online. Thing is I wasn't looking for one at the time, so I guess technically I didn't break my vow. She seems almost perfect for me. We even ended up getting sick with the same thing at the same time, even though we're nowhere near each other right now. Now THAT'S a connection.

It's actually good to see you having a positive outlook rather than deprived, seriously it is actually great to see.
I'm happy for you mate, I really am.

Who are you and what have you done with DialAForAwesome?
Just a joke there, honestly I'm proud of you.

I dunno, it's looking like I may have botched it up. Details soon.

Okay, I promised like 3 weeks ago that I'd tell you guys what was going on. Well here's everything since that last post. I need some advice on what to do.

She told me she liked me. So about 5 days after that, she gets a job, finally. So then she basically stops talking to me for a while. I got curious and asked her why, and she said she was using the time before she started working to wind down and take care of her daughter. Also that when she gets on the computer now it automatically goes to FB, and she doesn't always get on there. Fine. But she stopped initiating conversation (she never really did anyway, only in rare cases) and in rare instances, we would talk. Sometimes for 5 minutes, sometimes for an hour. But never very long. And it got to the point where I'd say bye, or good night or something and she wouldn't respond. Or I'd compliment her and the same thing happened. Now according to one of her best friends, she became really unresponsive to her too, and wouldn't really talk to anyone on the forum we came from either.

Over the past 3 weeks her tone has been getting more and more glib. I'll ask her how her day went and get a one-word response, or a complaint, or a response that indicates she's annoyed with me. Now keep in mind I don't message her every day. And if I get no response, I don't push the issue. I later found out there were a couple times she tried to talk but her FB would crash. I know she's telling the truth because she left messages when that happened. It also happens to me sometimes.

The confusing part comes on my birthday a few days ago. She indicated that she wanted to talk to me on the day before, but couldn't. She wrote this long message talking about how she hoped I had a good day and that I deserved it (put 3 hearts after it) and then proceeded to talk to me for a few hours. Then the day after, is when she started getting glib again. But every once in a while she'll throw out the odd hint that she does still care. The tradeoff is, she doesn't really talk to anyone else now either except her IRL best friend.

Now, here's some background on her. She said she doesn't really believe in true love. She also has a hard time expressing feelings (like that example where I said me and her played a game to figure out who she liked); she used to write poetry to get her feelings out but stopped a long time ago. She doesn't take compliments too well most of the time unless they come from me.

Easy for me to say this when you're the one who's at least talking to a female who's not a relative, but you might want to tighten the reins a little on your heart; don't be so loose with the compliments. Notch down your enthusiasm a click. Not saying to blow hot and cold but remember that a rose bush doesn't blossom overnight, and if you try to produce full bloom roses by dumping 10 gallons a day of Miracle Gro on a sapling, you're going to burn it

Also you don't want to give her the idea that your own identity would absorb into hers, stay focused on your pre-meet interests, keep yourself in that mindset that you have your own life, she has hers and you could both be enhancements to each others'

She could be super affectionate due to the internet being what it is and both of you far apart at the moment. As the reality of being together IRL dawns on her she might be getting that 'what have I done?' feeling, especially if you seem excessively eager to pull up stakes and rush right to her side

Well here's the thing, it's like I said before. I don't compliment her all the time now, and I don't cling to her or anything. I send maybe 2 messages a week now, tops. Sometimes I may tell her to have a good day too. She just basically became like this after she got her job. I was there to say some good words to her, and that's about it. She knows I'm still interested though. As of right now we're not really talking; I am basically terrified to talk to her now because I feel like she might screw me over.