I love when known cheaters flaunt their new partner's ignora

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.....nce.

Something like...

"I AM SO GLAD I HAVE A PARTNER WHO WOULD NEVER SUSPECT ME OF DOING ANYTHING!"

I kinda feel sorry for the new person when they are blissfully unaware of what an insincere person they got involved with and the reason the cheater wants a person who doesn't care or suspect them of cheating because that's exactly what they do.

Really sad situation.

I'll admit I haven't got any right to judge a person who cheats, because I'm not living that person's life... but bragging about it seems pretty cruel.

I can't fathom why someone would seek out a relationship for the purpose of being with someone he/she can cheat on. That's pretty awful.

Although, my ex cheated on me, and then the woman he cheated with came over wearing one of his t-shirts and they basically rubbed it in my face. I wasn't really all that bothered, but that was pretty much the end of that relationship.

And an ex-friend let me know quite recently she slept with my ex-fiance on my birthday(so, less than a year ago) and that's why he missed dinner etc. with me that day. I felt sorry for her because it seemed pathetic but I told her I wasn't up for mind games over two people I'm much better off without and haven't allowed contact with her since.

That is really messed up, I don't understand why people just can't have the balls to break up with a person rather than going behind their backs to cheat and continue stringing them along. I have never cheated in my life and never will. If I was ever to the point where I was ready to move on I would try talking to my partner one last time and lay it all out for them, and if still nothing happened I would break up with them and find someone else (Most likely waiting a few months out of respect).

Then again I am a good and respectable person, something sorely lacking in this world.

Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.

Tbh, telling you about it and trying to brag to your face was partially a favor, as I think you've implied. Like, "Thanks for telling me that I should definitely be moving on RIGHT NOW!" Who knows how long you might have stayed with that douchebag had they not told you?

There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.

The ex-fiance blamed me for his cheating(which is odd since I didn't even know about it until after we broke up) because I should've known and apparently he thinks it's also due to me having AS and "lying" about it. He never knew I had it, nor suspected anything, until about halfway through our relationship. It didn't seem like a big deal to me because no one suspects I have AS. They just think I'm eccentric.

So somehow it was my fault, and also not my fault because I have AS, but still my fault since he apparently never would've been with me if he knew I had AS.

I'll admit I can be oblivious to lies, but I really just think it was a matter of him doing crappy things and blaming me for not realizing he was unhappy. At least I learned to be very clear and now I know to ask the same of partners in the future.

The ex-friend... blah, I don't need someone in my life who does that, then won't speak to me for six months and somehow demands and apology for the distance between us while bragging of how adult she's being by apologizing to me for sleeping with my ex-fiance.

I've never had any desire to cheat but I believe if I ever did in future relationships that's a big sign that something is wrong and needs to be dealt with, not by way of screwing someone else.

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Yeah, it was definitely a favor. That guy got arrested a few weeks later and the girl he cheated with was murdered shortly thereafter, by a drug dealer she stole from. She left her keys in his house when she broke in. Just... bad people all around.

Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.

I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.

I know a woman whose husband was in an accident that resulted in some sort of brain damage and he's basically got the mind of a child. She takes care of him and everything but I always imagined if she were to seek relations outside of her marriage, it would be pretty hard to judge her for that.

Is that even cheating, though?

i know a few people who are having affairs.

One man does it because his sex drive is a lot more then his wife. He married for love and social obligation. She doesn't even allow him to self pleasure in her house so ultimately he goes elsewhere after the fact he would spend his lunch break daily giving himself a hand.

Another man is having an affair because he met someone he can talk to. It is purely an emotional affair and all they do is talk.

The third man i know is just a vile pig of a man. He gets off on sex and will do anything to get the high from cheating. I think he probably has a sex addiction.

I have been guilty in the past of cheating on partners to get what is missing from the relationship. It is nothing to do with love. Although my first other man took my virginity and is still in my life as my best mate. We joke that we will get married when we live in a retirement villiage. I do love him.

Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.

Thats a very extreme situation.

In my opinion the only times its okay to look for something else than your partner is when youve both talked about whatever is making you feel the need to seek this possible relationships.
Why? Because I think that they deserve a chance to try to work on whatever they need to work on.

If you cant give them that then maybe you should consider if you are truly in a good relationship and wether you should break things of or not.

Sorry to hear about your awful experience meems