Online dating??

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Do you guys think that online dating is recommended for singles in search for girl/guy? Are there any important advantages and disadvantages of online dating that people need to know first before before doing it?

Advantages:

(A) You can more easily find a certain type of people online, and make the "getting to know that person" process less complicated.

(B) There are specialty dating services for people searching for a specific type of person (i.e. Christian, active lifestyle, senior, interracial, etc.)

Disadvantages:

(A) The Internet is anonymous--this is probably a cliche by now.

(B) Some online dating services can cost a lot of money (except for sites such as plentyoffish.com)

Tim

OK Thanx.

This is from my personal experience of on-line dating. I view on-line dating as a game of Russian Roulette. You never know what type of person you going to get. I have my share of women who were very needy, psychologically unbalanced,or looking for a man who wants to take care of their kids from a previous relationship. I had a woman who was stalking me.

About half of the women who showed an interest in me had kids from previous relationships.

Tim

The worst thing is they tell you that they have kids just as things are becoming serious. They never tell you at the beginning of the relationship.

Your avatar's a bit big, isn't it?

Here's a smaller version:

How can you not notice the kids???

A lot of single moms do online dating because having kids makes them undesirable to most men who don't need the internet to get a date. They think perhaps men online are desperate enough to fall into that trap.

Please see the other recent question on online dating for my experience. Quickly said 34 out of the 35 people I have met from online were nutjobs. The good candidates are not going to be found online. Find someone local. You should really be looking more seriously for other locals in your area on sites like this if you insist on the online world meetings.

Yup.

That and age - if you're in your 30s or 40s and try it you'll find most of the women in your age range are divorced with kids.

I just turned 27.

Tim

Well that's just the way it is. Most girls fall for someone in their late teens, early 20's, get's married (sometimes), has kids, then gets dumped because few men are able to stay married or raise kids. So by the 30's & 40's most everyone has been hitched, sometimes more than once, unless they are gay.

If you are in your 30's or older you are going to have to accept most normal people have already lived their lives a little. Don't expect someone that old to be childless and even virginal just because you are. A lot of my straight female friends are nice but can't get a date because guys run from women with kids. Is that the lady's fault that she was dumb enough to trust a man when he said he loved her then has his kid and he leaves her? Think about it if you were in her shoes?

Also know this unless someone is gay it always sends up warning flags when they are over 30 and have never been married and had kids. Means somethings wrong. Gays at least have the excuse of not being able to find another in town if they live in rural areas. lol That's my excuse at least. It's just when you get older you need to concentrate on who the person is and not if kids come with the package. You will be lucky to find someone that even treats you nice in todays world, so if you meet someone nice don't blow it.

There are no advantages dating someone over the internet, especially If you intend on meeting up with them and it keeps getting put off or it's never done.

I think online dating is really dumb. If you're only dating someone on the internet, you never get to see them, or spend actual time with them. It's not even like a real relationship at all.

Using the internet to find a date though? That's alright. I know a few sites...eharmony.com (I think that one's for if you're looking for a serious relationship and looking for someone to marry), Okcupid.com, and you could also browse Myspace.com for people in your area who say in their profile that they're looking for dating.

I know. Agreed.

I don't expect virginal but the Catch-22 for those of us with AS is some of us are probably not cut out to be dads or stepdads. So the kids are a disqualifier like for some NT men.

Mine told me he had a kid from the start. I already knew he had one just from reading his profile.