Pre-nups

Post Reply New Topic

If I ever got married, there would need to be a pre-nup involved saying:

No one gets anything the other person has, and vice versa.
Anything accumulated during the marriage would be divided equally, regardless of profit or debt (in the case of having to sell vehicles or houses).

Religious friends and family say it's better for me to never enter into a relationship where an agreement such as this would be necessary, but I'm not willing to count out love because of wanting FAIRNESS if there is a divorce, and I'm also not willing to count out the chance that something - anything - could happen just because I love a woman and I think she loves me.

Your thoughts on pre-nups?

If you have any significant assets, yes, I think it's fair and sensible. It's a bit of a sting to the partner because it implies less than 100% trust... but unfortunately well over half of all marriages end in divorce and ~80% of them are initiated by women.

If you have significant assets, I think it's perfectly fair - and a good partner will agree. A gold digger will be offended to the nth degree.

I would have trouble sticking around with a partner who didn't at least acknowledge that, "hey, stuff happens, better to be prepared than not." So I'm indirectly predisposed towards having a prenuptial agreement in place. Not a dealbreaker though, and if the other person insisted on a fair prenup I'd have no concerns and wouldn't think any less of him or her.

With a pre-nup you can save your own patrimony if you divorce? Then make one. Love is a beautiful thing, blah blah and blaaah, but your own patrimony is a treasure than insure your retirement.

Yes you can, but anything can be challenged in court, depending who got the deepest pockets to fuel the challenge...

Good luck with that.

Heck, a pre-nup might be the right thing to sniff out a gold digger before you're in a marriage from h-e double hockey sticks.

I have heard some nasty divorce stories in the past about who gets what and how one person literally gets gutted and hung out to dry. Think about the following if no prenup is signed:

1. Money- The other partner is going to want more money then what they could be entitled too. The assets usually always go to the women in most cases I hear of and so does a good chunk of the man's financial earnings after the fact (child support which I think is reasonabe, but alimony is a joke and may imply the other' partner's unwillingness to find a job if they don't have one). If I had worked hard to earn my money, do you think I would want to give it all away because my partner wanted a divorce and got greedy during the proceedings?
2. Lawyers- So many people have disdain for such people. Even the lawyers can get heated in meetings between the divorcees.
3. Children- Custody over chilren is one issue, but some parents may be using the kids against eachother and putting the children in the middle of their fights. Of course, child support and whether it is paid on time or not also effects whether one partner trusts and allows the other to see their children. Who knows what other issue will be brought up for visitation rights.
4. Irreconcilable differences- When I think of these words, I happen to think one person got abused or cheated on. I am not sure if you can say that an Aspie is more likely to be cheated on during a marriage or not, but imo, if someone cheated on me, I would not take them back. I would also fight to not allow them any money if this was possible since they "breached the contract"

Oh, look at that, post-nups exist.