"It's Different Around Her"

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So as an aspie, there's always an invisible barrier between me and the rest of society. I never have much to say, and when I do, I carry a conversation like a net carries water.

Recently, I've taken up fencing at my university. Now there are friendly people who I can have small talk with if I'm lucky, but there's this girl there who I can legitimately converse with. When I'm around her, it's as if my Asperger's doesn't even exist.

How do I approach this? How do I handle this? What steps should I take?

Tie her up and lock her in your room so you can keep her for all time, naturally

I know what you mean about the invisible barrier, and it feels great when you find someone you can really connect with. Definitely pursue getting to know her better, but try to just enjoy her company and not get so fixated on the idea that she's the only person you like that you go and propose to her or something like that. Remember that even if things don't happen romantically, you may still have found a great friend.

I second this! Excellent advice to follow. Romances may not last forever, but true friendship probably will.

thanks guys, sounds like sound advice. but if i were to take the step further, how would i do that.

Ask her out for coffee at a semi-busy location in the middle of the day or at an agreeable time. This seems to be the most common and most acceptable "first date" or "no pressure" meeting.

Even if she turns you down, you could say "oh no, I didn't mean like that, I meant as friends." then smile and hope she changes her mind.

Anyway, you know her better than we do, so good luck

I'll try for something simple and innocuous; I just have to work up the courage first. Wish me luck.

I definitely felt this very recently. In my case it wasn't a her, but that's irrelevant. I noticed things like i was able to carry a mostly ordinary conversation around him (I rambled occasionally and got self conscious about it and stopped myself which he thought was cute?) and even stranger I didn't stim at all during our time together (typically in situations like that I'm tic-ing like a time bomb).

I guess it's because I feel a sort of subconscious trust? It's not something I've ever really felt before.

I'd say it's a good sign.

I have that barrier too around most people. You could try getting to know her better. chatting with her online could be a start. Ask her for her FaceBook if you use that or, if she uses any messenger programs you use or her email addy