Perhaps some people would be happier abroad?

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22 Sep 2012, 9:57 am

Hey,
I just was kind of looking at the dating subforum and looking at the overall level of desperation. Then a thought popped in my mind. Why not make a thread about foriegn dating! So anyways, I was thinking in between the sense of entitlement of SOME women ( not all), the lack of ways to blow steam ( p4p, prostitution) , especially in small areas, somewhat lack of intellectual curiosity as a whole (again not everyone), the staggering divorce rate, and the costs of living (try raising a family on a shrinking value in your currency), it can be hard to date and or raise a family. So what about living elsewhere? While I am not saying there is an utpoia, there are places with better employment opportunities, ways to blow off steam, inexpensive neccesities, better dating scene for some, a better attitude toward life, opportunities for the entrepeneurs among us, along with other things? So, has anyone else considered this option? I am currently working towards bulding an online stream of income that is large enough to live off of. Like I said, thoughts, or anyone else doing this?



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22 Sep 2012, 10:07 am

This will inevitably turn into a topic about how anglo-saxon people would have better luck in Latin America. :P


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22 Sep 2012, 12:10 pm

I met an aspyish scooterist who teaches english to Asians. She taught in Taiwan and still rides scooters here in Auckland. Thats how I still ride a lot too, from asia[and childhood for me].

The Asian way is often conducive toward aspie peace and harmony, except tourist hotspots, where you are a walking dollar sign. However, living along the tourist trails of Asia, you are likely to meet travellers from all over the world.... while you sit still in paradise on US$5 a day[good food and own room on the beach!]

I've been dreaming about Scandinavian. I met a few people from there, and really enjoyed their ways. Aloof and cool, world leading design, perfect for aspies[but not $5 a day...]

Tahiti is a paradise, the mountains on the sea make it extra special. Love is given away free, just like in the old days



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25 Sep 2012, 12:09 am

Overseas travel is nice because women in certain countries are culturally discouraged from acting like caricatures of men and the obesity crisis hasn't hit those places yet so there is a higher population of physically attractive women to go around.

The status differential of being "rich" also plays into their hypergamous instincts, so spergy awkwardness is negated and you can get laid more easily.



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25 Sep 2012, 3:17 am

Interesting. As it is some people have a hard time dating and these days we're under a crushing Recession.

I know I'm back at my parents trying to start over by going back to college. If that works out after I graduate I am very tempted to expatriate.



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25 Sep 2012, 3:55 am

I honestly think I would be happier in Japan Korea or Taiwan. I admire the politeness and hospitality and most NTs I seem to get along with most seem to be people from those countries.


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25 Sep 2012, 4:03 am

zacb wrote:
Hey,
I just was kind of looking at the dating subforum and looking at the overall level of desperation. Then a thought popped in my mind. Why not make a thread about foriegn dating! So anyways, I was thinking in between the sense of entitlement of SOME women ( not all), the lack of ways to blow steam ( p4p, prostitution) , especially in small areas, somewhat lack of intellectual curiosity as a whole (again not everyone), the staggering divorce rate, and the costs of living (try raising a family on a shrinking value in your currency), it can be hard to date and or raise a family. So what about living elsewhere? While I am not saying there is an utpoia, there are places with better employment opportunities, ways to blow off steam, inexpensive neccesities, better dating scene for some, a better attitude toward life, opportunities for the entrepeneurs among us, along with other things? So, has anyone else considered this option? I am currently working towards bulding an online stream of income that is large enough to live off of. Like I said, thoughts, or anyone else doing this?
am i going crazy or didyou edit the title from men to people?


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25 Sep 2012, 4:25 am

Im female (if that makes any difference) but I think I would be happier abroad. I get along much better with people from non-western cultures because (well this is my theory) they don't understand the western cultural norms and therefore it isn't as obvious that I just don't fit in. I think this is why they seem more inclined to *like* me. Also I feel more confidence around them too because I feel like I won't be judged on the western standards, which of course helps the whole friends/relationships thing.



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25 Sep 2012, 7:29 am

I too think I would be happier abroad. For some weird reason I feel better when I'm talking to people in other languages and there are just places I've been to that are so... I don't know, different, beautiful, nicer. I'm not even sure why, but sometimes I feel there more at home than I do in my actual home.
I can't see myself living in an extremely non-western culture though...



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25 Sep 2012, 5:33 pm

I suspect that by living abroad would be great but only to a limited time. Once people realise who you are then it might be pretty much the same just as back home. Unless you can snag a long term partner in the process :D



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25 Sep 2012, 6:17 pm

Stalk wrote:
I suspect that by living abroad would be great but only to a limited time. Once people realise who you are then it might be pretty much the same just as back home. Unless you can snag a long term partner in the process :D
That's the plan. :D :heart:


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25 Sep 2012, 9:25 pm

I'm surrounded by Asian girls in my city Auckland. They are everywhere wanting to make NZ home, make little Kiwi and have a good Kiwi life.

The upside is the cold winter in NZ now spent in China or wherever for 2-6months...., and spots along the way, stopovers in Bali, Pohnpei, Hawaii, Fiji, Okinawa locals sometimes live 120yrs old plus

Often way cheaper living costs than back home!

Tahiti is usually expensive, but I stayed in my tent for $5 at a camping ground for back packers, got free fish[shark] from the local fishermen..... found wild fruits in the neighbouring jungle, just bought rice and vegetables and cheap wine! So all up about $12 a day in paradise[including unending supply of back packers, maybe too many German girls]



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25 Sep 2012, 9:45 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
zacb wrote:
Hey,
I just was kind of looking at the dating subforum and looking at the overall level of desperation. Then a thought popped in my mind. Why not make a thread about foriegn dating! So anyways, I was thinking in between the sense of entitlement of SOME women ( not all), the lack of ways to blow steam ( p4p, prostitution) , especially in small areas, somewhat lack of intellectual curiosity as a whole (again not everyone), the staggering divorce rate, and the costs of living (try raising a family on a shrinking value in your currency), it can be hard to date and or raise a family. So what about living elsewhere? While I am not saying there is an utpoia, there are places with better employment opportunities, ways to blow off steam, inexpensive neccesities, better dating scene for some, a better attitude toward life, opportunities for the entrepeneurs among us, along with other things? So, has anyone else considered this option? I am currently working towards bulding an online stream of income that is large enough to live off of. Like I said, thoughts, or anyone else doing this?
am i going crazy or didyou edit the title from men to people?


No I didn't. But my post was primarily aimed at men since they have a harder time dating on averagw.