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27 Sep 2012, 6:14 am

I know; this can be a touchy subject, but it deserves to be discussed in any way, whether it be what you'd do, your thoughts on it, et al.
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I will NEVER stray away from my woman, EVER. Even though I may get bored with her after a while, I have to realize that I am with her forever and ever. That's how I am; doing otherwise would be dishonorable.


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27 Sep 2012, 6:22 am

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27 Sep 2012, 6:26 am

Loyalty is easy in a good relationship and its a pity some folks are never satisfied with wha they got. And yeah what Surfman said lol



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27 Sep 2012, 10:52 am

Loyalty to the rules we've agreed to yes. Not particularly interested in long-term monogamy though, so any partner I had would need to be accepting of that.



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27 Sep 2012, 2:50 pm

equestriatola wrote:
I know; this can be a touchy subject, but it deserves to be discussed in any way, whether it be what you'd do, your thoughts on it, et al.
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I will NEVER stray away from my woman, EVER. Even though I may get bored with her after a while, I have to realize that I am with her forever and ever. That's how I am; doing otherwise would be dishonorable.

Funny that you bring this subject up, just yesterday I found out about what happened to a friend... turns out he had cheated on his GF while she was overseas. First I thought it had been during the period when they had had a misunderstanding and broke up for some days, but no, it was before that, while she was away. Later I remembered when he first told me she was going away for a couple of months, I jokingly said "and sure you're going to cheat on her the minute she leaves, huh?" to which he immdiately replied "no way, I'd NEVER do that!". But you see, in the end... (yesterday when I commented on that, he only said "well, never say never...")
He did confess it to her later, which obviously strained their relationship. At least she didn't find out through anyone else, he just couldn't stand the sense of guilt and told her. Others have said that was the worst he could have done, but my opinion is that the worst was the actual cheating - I don't adhere to the theory of "it isn't a crime if nobody finds out", of which this would be a variation. (As for the reasons why he did it, well, it appears he was coerced into doing it by some cougar in exchange for a favor, and he was too desperate...)
I hope you really mean it when you say "never, ever".
Me? There's a reason why I don't believe in casual premarital sex, I'd consider it cheating on whoever I end up marrying later.



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27 Sep 2012, 2:52 pm

machf wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
I know; this can be a touchy subject, but it deserves to be discussed in any way, whether it be what you'd do, your thoughts on it, et al.
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I will NEVER stray away from my woman, EVER. Even though I may get bored with her after a while, I have to realize that I am with her forever and ever. That's how I am; doing otherwise would be dishonorable.

Funny that you bring this subject up, just yesterday I found out about what happened to a friend... turns out he had cheated on his GF...

It wasn't cheating; they weren't married.



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27 Sep 2012, 2:53 pm

That's highly debatable...



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27 Sep 2012, 3:51 pm

You guys must be the alphas? A bit of loyalty will be bloody good for you! Just cause you wiff your authority about so inferred mere degenerates, like gold digging mercenary women gravitate to your riches... and fine use of prose



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27 Sep 2012, 6:02 pm

machf wrote:
Me? There's a reason why I don't believe in casual premarital sex, I'd consider it cheating on whoever I end up marrying later.


Eh? But you're not with her or with anyone - you're a free agent.

If you're cheating on your girlfriend/wife, that's a different matter. But you wouldn't be cheating on your girlfriend because there's no-one to cheat on!



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27 Sep 2012, 8:12 pm

I cant imagin wanting to be with anyone except the person I'm with so I have no problems at all staying loyal & I really appreciate it in my partner but I know she doesn't want to be with anyone else either


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27 Sep 2012, 8:17 pm

nick007 wrote:
I cant imagin wanting to be with anyone except the person I'm with so I have no problems at all staying loyal & I really appreciate it in my partner but I know she doesn't want to be with anyone else either


That's more like it :lol:



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29 Sep 2012, 7:24 am

JanuaryMan wrote:
nick007 wrote:
I cant imagin wanting to be with anyone except the person I'm with so I have no problems at all staying loyal & I really appreciate it in my partner but I know she doesn't want to be with anyone else either


That's more like it :lol:


Seconded.

If you're not satisfied with who you are with then end it peacefully and move on, but don't cheat. It's makes the cheater in to a horrible person and makes the person cheated on feel like crap.


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30 Sep 2012, 3:22 am

To me, giving up on my woman is like giving up my love of sports........ it wouldn't seem right!


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04 Nov 2012, 2:42 am

What can I do to stay with my woman forever, eh?


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04 Nov 2012, 10:00 am

I feel as if I am the loyal type that would not stray to far away. I simply don't want to ruin a good chance at what might be a sure thing. However, on the other hand, I reckon that I am the type that would get cheated on. Anyone else feel the same way in that sense?



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04 Nov 2012, 1:01 pm

aspiemike wrote:
I feel as if I am the loyal type that would not stray to far away. I simply don't want to ruin a good chance at what might be a sure thing. However, on the other hand, I reckon that I am the type that would get cheated on. Anyone else feel the same way in that sense?


I GOT cheated on, by my very first girlfriend no less.
Granted she was 15 and I was 16 at the time and we didn't actually have 'sex' so 'cheating' meant being intimate and (french)kissing another guy... it's still cheating.

Personally I make no claims one way or the other.

I HOPE that when I do find a nice girl to settle down with (my longest relationship so far was 8 months but I got tired of her and broke it off) I'll be able to stay loyal and I HOPE she'll be able to do the same.
I am NOT however going to say I'm NEVER going to cheat on a girl I am in a relationship with.
Anything can happen really.. you could meet someone more interesting who fits you better, you could be seduced/forced or whatever.. who knows.
I am level-headed enough to admit that it'd be very difficult for a relationship involving me to be stable and secure enough so that I'd be so confident in it and my partner that I would 'NEVER' consider cheating if the perfect opportunity arose.


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