Should I give up?

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I don't know. I might as well give up, and not find love any longer. I've discussed what my problems are in other posts (but, to bring ya up to speed: my bad social skills, being looked upon by many girls like I'm some sort of criminal, living in a desolate area, and my "Homer Simpson Syndrome"); I might as well turn down any date request that comes my way.

At the same time, however, I am becoming Desperate Housewives-like desperate in finding one. What could I possibly do?

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I don't think so. Perhaps take a break for a while from even thinking about dating, but don't give up completely. Even if you are having difficulties, you have to keep in mind that you have never truly failed until you stop trying completely. Even if you haven't had much success, you have to just use it as a learning experience for the future. Heck I've been single for nearly 27 years and I'm still quite optimistic! It sounds like you have a decent degree of self-awareness and know what some of your issues are; my suggestion would be to see what you can do to find solutions to those problems. Perhaps even see a therapist if possible, they can help point out things that might be hindering you.

Living in a rural area makes everything much harder though, especially if you don't have the opportunity to move! I also live in a very small town now. I recently went on a mini-trip to a major city up north and the difference in culture and people was almost shocking (made me want to move out of the South soo badly lol).

Yes... my self awareness in this sitch is a good thing. Further confounding me is why girls think I'm annoying (and in turn, compare me to said criminals I have said in past posts), and that makes me want to look outside my area for a girl...... in addition, my ultimate goal is to move to Los Angeles (or somewhere in its surrounding areas), as indicated on my profile.

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Feel free to talk to me, if you wish.

Every day is a gift- cherish it!

"A true, true friend helps a friend in need."

I tried giving up. It ended with me falling in love with a friend who will never want anything with me. It was completely unintentional; I never even had fallen in love before. I only wanted a girlfriend in order to avoid loneliness.

What I am trying to say is: you cannot simply decide to give up. I know it sucks and, unless you meet somebody, you will feel bad about it for a long time. But I believe I will eventually (some 20 years from now) get used to it and even lose my interest in women. In the meantime, I am trying to ask my friend out to talk to her, even though I know exactly where this will lead (rejection; in fact, I think I have already been silently rejected, since she has not replied yet).

I guess. I feel like more pressure is on me as an only son, though......

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Feel free to talk to me, if you wish.

Every day is a gift- cherish it!

"A true, true friend helps a friend in need."

it is best to give up and accept being alone.
we are all born into this world alone and we all die alone.
an unhappy person's life can not be made happy by depending upon someone else.

In America, you can't just "go out and get a girlfriend" like the movies show. In real life, people in the US (especially women) don't talk to strangers unless it's business-related, so most people's social interactions are strictly limited to within their "clique" of friends and its connections. It's inappropriate to meet women otherwise. You can't just chat them up in public or else you will be seen as a "creep". So, unless your clique has connections to many attractive single women who also find you to be "dating material", you're out of luck. On the average, single guys in America have to wait several years (or more) before the chance to get a new girlfriend or to get laid comes along, and when it does, he's considered "lucky". Again, that just plain SUCKS big time.

In addition, where in modern America are you going to find a woman who is warm, tender, caring, feminine and loving with good character and values, as well as a beautiful appearance? Such wholesome women existed in the distant past, but today, the media and Hollywood have conditioned women to be jaded, self-centered, tough and uncaring.

So you see, there are just so many things going against the single male in America that it's unbelievable! It's a total mess and nightmare.
But of course, in our country of "free speech" and "freedom" you aren't allowed to complain about any of this because you'll be considered a loser and blamed if you do due to the victim-blaming culture, Instead, you are only allowed to pretend that everything is great, or blame/improve yourself, neither of which really changes anything.

The Solution - expand your search outside the US matrix if you are serious about looking for a life partner. Abroad in most non western countries, there is no obesity epidemic so most women will be attractive and receptive because they are not hotly pursued or in the top 20% like they would be if they were in the US, so this keeps them unspoiled and more friendly and open to men. They have traditional values, dress and act more feminine, need and want men to complete them rather than just compliment them. They appreciate and admire men and look up to men and show gratitude for anything you do for them rather than the typical "men hating men as creeps attitude" you find here, nor is there a "what have you done for me lately" attitude, and they are not spoiled or entitled. By the way, I am not saying all American women are the ways I have described them, but just saying, generally speaking, there is a huge difference between the two . Any guy who is traveled and dated abroad will attest to this.