Anybody who doesn´t like weddings?

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I don´t, I always feel so alone and out of place and it feels like it´s just a party for couples. Everybody are always so happy (it seems). This is only when someone close to me gets married, I have no problems with watching weddings on films or royal weddings.

I remember when my biggest brother got married 7 years ago. A friend of him sang a ballad and all people around me hugged and kissed. I just sat there and felt stupid, like I shouldn´t be there. I almost had a breakdown and it has made me think that I don´t want to attend the next siblings wedding. I feel like this probably because I´m very alone, have never had a relationship and I´m worried I will never be happy with my life. I also have trouble with "letting go" and accept that I´m not as important as before.

Yeah I feel the same way. I hate the slow dances, I have no one to dance with. I feel like the whole world is an event for couples and I don't fit in.

I notice though you are alot younger than me. Don't dispair you don't know what will happen in the future. You have your whole life ahead of you.

I avoid formal social functions, except for an occasional funeral. For some reason, I can usually handle funerals. I also minimise attendance at smaller family get-togethers, but do occasionally go to those. My father and step mom get upset if I don't occasionally visit them.

In years past I did attend a number of major anniversaries, wedding receptions, and reunions that my mother was invited to, until she died, because I was her driver. Although I have nothing against any of the people at these functions (except the DJs), I hated each of the events. Like other Aspies, I am out of step with NTs, so I never feel comfortable in social situations. Also, the DJs at these functions prefer to play the music at "FULL BLAST", driving me nuts in the process. I had a tendency to hide in the bathroom or the lobby--from the loud music, far more than from the social climate. Once I even asked the DJ to lower the volume. He smiled and nodded, and did nothing. A relative told me the DJ couldn't hear me because he was wearing ear plugs to protect his own hearing! After one particularly loud event, I suffered a partial loss of hearing, and only got part of it back afterwards. You couldn't pay me to go to another one!

Many people on the spectrum just don't do well in social situations, in part because we are out of step with the NT world, and in part because of the excess sensory input to be encountered in such situations. We each need to find our own comfort level on such things, and our own niche in the world. And we need to remember that we are all:

A Different Drummer

If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
Perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears,
However measured or far away.

--Henry David Thoreau

I hate weddings. So many social rituals seem forced and disingenuous to me, and that includes holiday and religious celebrations, many of which are outdated. If I ever get married, I hope it's a mere visit to city hall and then some Indian takeout and a drive to the ocean. Feel free to send cash gifts though.

I like weddings. Probably because I'm a romantic and start thinking what I would do for my wedding.

I love weddings. I always seem to be single when I am at them though. It is a weird feeling.... but then there are always other singles at weddings too. I try and spend a lot of time focusing on the details of the wedding, and on the dance floor, and drinking if it is available...

I don't really have any strong feelings about weddings. I find them a bit pointless, really. I don't like the social aspect much and I'm never comfortable around organised religion (a term which sounds horribly similar to "organised crime") but as far as weddings themselves are concerned - do you need to verify your relationship with a big ceremony?

My partner and I had a simple registry office job with a handful of close family as witnesses. That was chiefly for the mortgage benefits - we'd been living in sin for five years before that!

There has been only one wedding that I liked ... and we're still married.

I don't like weddings. I feel like they're a public spectacle of the most intimate adult bond. I was a maid of honor once, but was demoted to bridesmaid after a few months of being absolutely useless.
It was increasingly apparent that the bride wanted a wedding more than she wanted a marriage, and I was so uncomfortable with all of the My Special Day business.
If I ever get married (and I don't feel passionately about it one way or the other) I'll probably elope, or just go to a Justice of the Peace.

I have had to go to several of my relatives weddings,3 in my own family and I am always alone at them.I dislike them immensely but am obligated to go .

Hate them. I'll probably never attend another. Fingers crossed.

normally I avoid weddings if at all possible but a couple of years ago my best friend had an amazing wedding with only about 30 people in attendance and a super casual dress code. all on the beach, the reception was at the bride's parent's house with liquor and a large pool. too much fun.

I do enjoy weddings if they are treated as a formally and orderly event and the emphasis is on the marriage instead of the wedding but each to their own preference. The Royal wedding is an example of how a formal wedding should be, a casual wedding would be a Hollywood wedding, I suppose.

I don't like social gatherings in general. I don't necessarily see weddings as much worse than any other type of party except that people at weddings tend to be nauseatingly lovey-dovey. Not to mention that the bride usually becomes a total witch if anything doesn't go her way.

Bit of a digression from the original subject here: I really, really hate how some females think the wedding is all about them. I wonder why men marry those types of women. Shouldn't the marriage (including the wedding) be a partnership? It is their day, the day they celebrate their committment to eachother. Not her day. In my opinion, the way the bride handles the wedding is indicative of the way she will act in their marriage.

I've never been to a wedding and don't expect to ever go to one.

I've only been to one funeral.

I've never liked weddings. They have always seemed cheap and hollow to me... lacking in any real meaning. Just a ritual like brushing one's teeth, but tacky.

Then again, I've never thought very highly of marriage.