Does this girl like me? O_o

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So there's this girl at work. Recently, before she went on vacation (she'll be on vacation probably until the middle of next week) she's been acting kinda....strange, I suppose.

It all started when we were the only 2 people working up front. She was really excited that we worked the same shift that day. She had a history of getting excited like that when she found out she was working with me, but this time it seemed a bit different. We are already friends, and we kinda throw sarcastic banter back and forth (not the mean kind of sarcastic, but the playful kind). But we're also able to have actual conversations at times. She is about 4 years younger than me, but that doesn't bother me too much. Although I'm not sure if I like her that way, to be honest. Mainly because of the situation I'm in.

Anyway, throughout the course of the shift that day, she did things like:

1. called me names like "sunshine" and "doll-face" (which she doesn't do for anyone else at the store as far as I'm aware) She has done this before, but not to this extent.
2. pulled her headband down and asked if she looked cute that way. When I said yes (for some reason I didn't feel threatened), she smiled and said "glad you like it."
3. made all these comments about how good my hair looked (she always does this and even says she wants her hair to look like mine)
4. made a bunch of sarcastic/playful comments again
5. sent other baggers to put items back for her instead of me (I bagged on her register most of the day, and you're generally supposed to ask your own bagger to take stuff back for you)
6. laughed really hard at damn near everything I said, though I was told I said some funny things that day.

I just wanted feedback about it. Pretty much everyone I've told has said that they think she likes me, but I'm not honestly sure I can trust their opinions. It doesn't really matter anyway because I've basically pulled myself out of the dating pool for now.

It's possible.
Nothing you've said here CONFIRMS without doubt that she's interested, but the chance is there.
You say that you guys are already friends.
Are you Friends @ Work or friends that hang out other places, and other times too?
Does she conspire to touch your hands a lot?
Do her arms move/reach towards you when she laughs at your jokes?
I've been told that girls toss their hair a lot more around guys they like.
Who are the other people who tell you she likes you? People at work, or people you've told this list to?
If it's people at work they are probably right - they probably see and hear things you don't (this is normal for everyone).

She may be disappointed that you've taken yourself out of the dating pool when she finds out.
If she's interested.
If you're interested.

Advice:
Before you figure out if she's interested
1> you need to focus on figuring out why you're out of the pool, and if your reasons are solid.
2> you need to figure out if she's someone you'd get along with outside of work / if you're really interested in HER specifically, or simply in the fact that she's flirting with you (if she is).
3> you need to figure out what would happen if you guys tried it and it didn't work out / would it cause issues at work?

Oh, she's definitely interested, no question. The question is, how interested? Perhaps she isn't interested enough to go on a date with you RIGHTNOW, but if she wasn't interested she wouldn't go out of her way to laugh at all your jokes and call you doll-face and tell you your hair looks great and ask you if you think she's cute. Just keep being friends with her. You don't have to date her, and if she really wants you, at some point she will make it kind of obvious if you don't ask her first. Girls often get frustrated when they put that level of effort in and don't get the response they want.

To me, the part that makes me think she is into you is the laughing. Showing emotion is a good sign of affection. As with her calling you "sunshine" and such... I would be careful. No first-hand experience, but I have witnessed some friends failing miserably thinking that a girl / woman liked them because she called them (the german equivalent, of course) "sweetheart", and being completely baffled that the guy tried to make a move.

To me, the part that makes me think she is into you is the laughing. Showing emotion is a good sign of affection. As with her calling you "sunshine" and such... I would be careful. No first-hand experience, but I have witnessed some friends failing miserably thinking that a girl / woman liked them because she called them (the german equivalent, of course) "sweetheart", and being completely baffled that the guy tried to make a move.

That reminds me of my younger days five years ago when I use to work at a grocery store. Same thing happened to me as far as a couple of the girls go but I never dated any of them because I never asked, it's that simple. It doesn't matter if they like you or not, they'll never ask you. You just got to ask(as long as you find out for sure they are single). Act quick because if you don't, they'll soon move on to someone else.

^ Agree.

Who cares if they like you? If you ask them out and they say no, hey you'll respect yourself for trying. Think of it this way, If they -do- like you and you never ask, How'll you feel about yourself?

Yeah don't date anyone you work with unless one of you is planning on getting another job. Because that's the risk you take, one or both of you is bound to get fired for something if things go sour.

I don't really think I like her that way, so it doesn't matter either way. I find her cute and nice but for some reason I can't push myself to care. Maybe it is because of what I just went through a few days ago. But I figured I'd ask on here because the people at work who commented on it are people I don't trust very much about this type of thing. They wouldn't intentionally steer me wrong, but they're just as clueless as I am. If she didn't like me I wouldn't really be crushed or anything. I wish I could be this way with any girl. That'd be awesome.



Currently just friends at work, which is one of the weird things about this.



Not necessarily a "lot" but she has done it once or twice.



Didn't really pay attention to this to be honest.



People I've told the list to, who are at work. I only told one person who the person was, and she said it was possible. But I don't know for sure.



One big one is I basically just got tired of being screwed over. There are many other reasons, but this is the biggest one.



Well, I mainly asked because I'm clueless with being able to tell if a girl likes me as more than a friend. I can DEFINITELY tell when they outright hate me or find me creepy, but knowing whether they like me is a foreign concept. Basically I'm asking as a learning experience.



She kinda gets treated the same way I do at work, so I don't think there'd really be any problem there. I could see a problem if one of us was the favorite and the other was basically expendable. As for issues with getting along, I don't think so because we barely work together now anyway.

Another case of captain obvious interest. I mean how do you want a woman to act when she's attracted to you? Really cold and dismissive?

It's not exactly that obvious, or I wouldn't have asked. Like others have mentioned, there are times when this type of thing may happen but it means nothing. But in my case there were a couple of things that just seemed like maybe she had more interest in me than I thought.

So she came back from her vacation a few days ago, and it was her birthday. She came up to me, put her hands on her hips, leaned towards me, and said "Do you know what today is?" I was like "Your birthday!" and she got all happy and was like "HOW DID YOU KNOW?!" (I knew because her birthday is the month after mine), and I joked around with her and said "happy 75th birthday!" and she stuck her tongue out at me. It was pretty funny. Throughout the day she laughed at a lot of things I said over the 8-hour period, and continued to smile a few times even as she wasn't looking at me. Even played with her hair a couple times (mostly tucking it behind her ear) as she was doing so.

She also did this cute thing where she'd put stuff on the belt where I couldn't reach it and laughed every time, or smiled. It's too bad she doesn't work there much anymore, but I found out she has an FB page, so.....

But there is another problem. Well, not really a problem, but there is another girl who just became single, who I kinda like as well (I used to like her but she had a boyfriend, so I couldn't do anything about it). She's been giving subtle hints that she is at least interested in being friends, but I'm kinda wary about pursuing her because I not only like this cashier a little, after getting to know her a little more, but my friend likes this girl too.

Grain-of-salt: I'm a few drinks in, typing this with my thumbs, but:

1. Get to know the one you want to know better (read: as per a previous post, figure out which one you are interested in the most, not the one showing you the most interest). Not sure?
2. Figure out which one is more mature, then get to know the other. Not sure?
3. Figure out which one is more patient, then get to know the other.

(Did I mention that I'm not entirely sober?)

Another big thing is that I see the one girl quite a bit more than I used to now. In fact I worked with her tonight, and we hit it off fairly well. The other girl, who is the cashier, only works maybe once or twice a week, and I don't get to talk to her much otherwise.

Ask out cute cashier girl that flirts with you.

It actually somewhat worked out the other way. Sort of. I asked the bagger girl if she would like to hang out on Thursday since we are both off. She said yes, but that we might have to hang out Saturday because she isn't sure what she has planned.