NT women and AS Men: How did it begin?

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Ok, I don't know how to start this, but given how the world works, I think it's pretty clear that, when relationships do occur between NT women and AS men, they tend to happen by more unconventional ways.

Like, for example, David Finch (who wrote "The Journal of Best Practices") had everything begin after being being friendzoned forever with his future wife, whose fiance died in a freak accident. He consoled her, and some how, some way, things picked up from there. Typically, the friend zone is a place you never leave, but in his case, miracles do happen.

Now, I don't want this to be going about "who has it harder" and "who has it easier" or talking about AS men vs AS women in the dating world. But, I think it might be helpful for us to understand where everything started, for those in relationships or marriages, so we can better understand the nature of those relationships and, at the very least, remind everyone that conventional ways are not really the best for any AS guy to go about things (in anything in life, really), and give us a little bit of inspiration.

Thanks in advance for anyone who contributes!

Hey! Good question...I'm an NT women in an (unconventional) relationship (been dating on and off for about 6 months now) with an AS guy, happy to contribute my experience.

Basically a really great friend of mine set us up. He knew that the AS guy and me shared similar interests (science, video games, comic books etc.) and the AS guy messaged me over Facebook to set up a date. He actually ended up cancelling our first one last minute, and I was a bit confused and hurt but it turned out to be good thing because that long weekend, we basically just texted 24/7. We shared all of our interests, and pretty much what we were doing at every minute of the day in a kind of casual way for about 4 days until our rescheduled date. By the time we actually met each other we "knew" each other pretty well, were comfortable, and it was less awkward. On our first date, his friends who he's more comfortable around were also there, and I totally didn't mind the group setting. Also there was light drinking involved so it helped for social lubricant....we had a great first date and I was very invested in him early on, and have been ever since.

To be honest, those first four days of texting (it was probably very easy for him to do when he hadn't met me yet and there were no expectations) really cemented our relationship...we never do that now, because really who has the time, but it was good. When he does close up now, it doesn't matter as much because we had already established such a strong connection. It helps me through the rougher patches when our communication breaks down.

Thanks, Darwin! I'm glad it's gone well so far! Anyone else?