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I'm not posting this to put down guys who are having problems getting girls, I'm posting this because I want people to know that it's really not all that hopeless. Yeah, it's a lot easier for girls, even with AS, but I have a friend with AS who is a boy. He's my kids friend and about 25. He's married and just left his wife actually (She's NT) and honestly he's pretty eat up with AS. It's obvious. He's got about 4 girls calling him wanting to go out with him. He was talking to me about it, cause I'm also friends with his wife and I feel horrible for her, but I did mention WP and asked him how he got all the girls cause I do remember in HS he didn't date much, and he said he just decided to speak up and say whats on his mind and that he realized that everybody is ridiculous so he could be ridiculous too. It's really worked for him. I'm very happy for him but I'd like him to get back with his wife.

And, for the cynics, he doesn't have money or a good car, nor is he hot. The girls are liking him for him, not any of that.

he seems more extroverted the most of us. i point that out because how people date is night and day difference between introverts and extroverts. very little in society is designed around the introverts. bars, online dating, singles parties, etc, all scare the crap out many people on here. if money or looks was never an issue, we wouldnt have so many people in pain. instead it comes down to how approaches are made, and how often. its mostly on them though to take a look at themselves and work on things that either they know, or others recommend. and then when they are happy with who they are, they have to apply it over and over again until things start to feel right. take it from me that every email i send out on okc, i know that most will have no reply, and its going to hurt a little, but the hope of what good might come out of it makes it worth it.

Luck. Pure and simple.

I have always used the internet to meet people. Ever since my twenties. I find, that on dating sites, men, as much as women, can go for looks more than anything else. They also tend not to make an effort with what they write, and that (personally) puts me off. I can imagine it's because the majority of women don't even bother answering (or so they assume), so they figure the effort is in vain. The one guy I did pay attention to, and ended up dating, was the one with AS, that used a lot of intelligent prose, as opposed to the usual grunts NT's provided me with.

I still had problems dating when I was in my twenties.
That's when I met my first girlfriend who was a screaming, abusive, alcoholic bi-polar monster.
True story.

He probably looks like Brad Pitt.

'He probably looks like Brad Pitt.'

Who?

No Comrade, he doesn't Not at all.

yes, there are men with asperger/autism that do date or have dated (myself including)
but the ratio is on women favor. more aspie/hfa women will date than a aspie/hfa men will.

and female poster here are pretty much proven my point.. ( almost most have bf or husband)

x2222222222222222222 222222 i agree wholeheartedly.

ive gotten messages from girls on okcupi that were 2 paragraphs long andtaled about how great i a and it turned me off..sodesperate.

here's an example. I ignored this girl and a few days later she set another.


11/13/2012 7:21:20 PM
I read your whole about me and smiled the whole entire time Hey im addie im 22 im from long island ny im into bars clubs cuddling in bed watching good movies or football my yolo is skydiving i surf i wana learn how to snowboard and wakeboard im in college studying sociology about to graduate in may with my bachelors degree and going to study for masters soon after im looking for a best friend and boyfriend because i like honesty genuine person and no lies i like working out i used to row i like long walks on the beach during the summer and bonfires i guess get to know me if u wana know more



11/16/2012 12:16:06 AM
Hey im addie im 22 i totally agree with u im sick of liars and games im into a guy who knows how to treat a girl with respect i like sports i used to and i surf i love working out idk wut exactly im looking for but if the right guy comes along who knowsi like wearing yoga pants and cuddling im in college guna graduate in may hope to hear from you i wana learn to snowboard and wakeboard im adventurous and willing to try new things i listen to edm and rap but open to other genres except heavy metal

so, did you turn them down because they wrotea lot or because they werent the models you were looking for?

both..im also suspicious of all the girls who tell me im great. It is odd that the girls i initiate contact/message always ignore me but then ill get messages form the same group of girls messaging me first every month telling me im incredible. You had sex with a model so why be hypocritical to someone who you claim-only wants models(which i don't)

Totally imagined a caveman signing up for a dating website and typing stuff like "ugh grunt wuuuuuh snarf" on his profile and getting 10,000 hits.

Sadly that is usually what happens.

I will stick with my luck theory because some people get all the lucky breaks, mostly people who don't deserve them.

well, you just answered the question saying both, which means yes to both scenarios. So yes that they wrote a lot, and yes that they werent models. All im saying is maybe you're looking for something you cant get. Why go car shopping for a lamborghini when you can only afford a toyota?

And before you say its settling for less, no it isnt. Its getting the best you can get.

I'm more concerned that someone who writes so incredibly poorly gets a bachelors degree and a six-figure salary. Sociology... studying to be a professional manipulator. Yuck!