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20 Oct 2012, 8:29 pm

if you read some of my op, you notice that I don't seem to have much luck going up and talking to women first.
I would rather have a women go up to me first and start talking to me first. For passive straight man like me, what the best
thing I can do to get women to notice me. I thought about hanging around bisexual women, I assume they would be more ''straight foward'' than the average straight women, but Im not sure.
I don't like going to bars or clubs. I do activity at my local gym. And I do try keeping myself in shape. Im a great listeren. I love listen to women and hearing all there things they say.
No insults please, Advice only.



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20 Oct 2012, 8:34 pm

Writing from a woman's perspective here...

I don't think you can "make" a woman notice you. She notices you or she doesn't. I see a lot of guys acting like complete idiots to draw attention.

If you wait for the girl to approach you however, you're gonna wait a long time. Few girls do that, since people will usually start talking about what a whore you are.

And how would you know who's bi? I'm bisexual myself and I'm not really straight forward.



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20 Oct 2012, 8:48 pm

Very few men refer to women who actually bother to make the first move as "whores"; this is just an excuse for not trying, as the passive role is far more convenient than the active role.



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20 Oct 2012, 8:51 pm

Kurgan wrote:
Very few men refer to women who actually bother to make the first move as "whores"; this is just an excuse for not trying, as the passive role is far more convenient than the active role.


Not the men. The other women. (mainly)
And other men who just watched it. Believe me, it has happened to me.



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20 Oct 2012, 8:57 pm

Sanctus wrote:
Kurgan wrote:
Very few men refer to women who actually bother to make the first move as "whores"; this is just an excuse for not trying, as the passive role is far more convenient than the active role.


Not the men. The other women. (mainly)
And other men who just watched it. Believe me, it has happened to me.


Just because it's happened to you a few times doesn't mean it happens all the time. It probably had more to do with the way you did the approaching rather than the approaching itself, though.



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20 Oct 2012, 9:17 pm

woman=singular
women=plural.


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20 Oct 2012, 9:32 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
woman=singular
women=plural.

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20 Oct 2012, 10:27 pm

furry hat and loud clothes always works



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20 Oct 2012, 10:29 pm

Sanctus wrote:
Writing from a woman's perspective here...

I don't think you can "make" a woman notice you. She notices you or she doesn't. I see a lot of guys acting like complete idiots to draw attention.

If you wait for the girl to approach you however, you're gonna wait a long time. Few girls do that, since people will usually start talking about what a whore you are.

And how would you know who's bi? I'm bisexual myself and I'm not really straight forward.


I always find that funny about women. They want equal rights, they want to have equal pay. They want to be able to sleep with a man without being call a slut but for some reason, they don't want to approach a man first.
Even really hardcore liberal women who pride themselves as being ''sluts'' still want men to approach them first. lol



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20 Oct 2012, 10:30 pm

MXH wrote:
furry hat and loud clothes always works


Sure, I'll do that



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20 Oct 2012, 10:35 pm

billiscool wrote:
MXH wrote:
furry hat and loud clothes always works


Sure, I'll do that

LOL. it was a joke on certain PUA.

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I always find that funny about women. They want equal rights, they want to have equal pay. They want to be able to sleep with a man without being call a slut but for some reason, they don't want to approach a man first.
Even really hardcore liberal women who pride themselves as being ''sluts'' still want men to approach them first. lol


would you give up such a nice position? Most always respond with "ive approached 2 guys and they said no so i decided it wasnt for me and its too hard for a woman in a male dominated world. reality is, its bloody nice to your self confidence to have it happen.



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20 Oct 2012, 10:48 pm

billiscool wrote:
Sanctus wrote:
Writing from a woman's perspective here...

I don't think you can "make" a woman notice you. She notices you or she doesn't. I see a lot of guys acting like complete idiots to draw attention.

If you wait for the girl to approach you however, you're gonna wait a long time. Few girls do that, since people will usually start talking about what a whore you are.

And how would you know who's bi? I'm bisexual myself and I'm not really straight forward.


I always find that funny about women. They want equal rights, they want to have equal pay. They want to be able to sleep with a man without being call a slut but for some reason, they don't want to approach a man first.
Even really hardcore liberal women who pride themselves as being ''sluts'' still want men to approach them first. lol
also want doors held for them and expect men who are strangers to owe them free meals within5 minutes upon meeting them for a first date .


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20 Oct 2012, 11:18 pm

Spend money generously. That always gets their attention.


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20 Oct 2012, 11:37 pm

Fnord wrote:
Spend money generously. That always gets their attention.


Indeed.

What got me some more was going from 230lbs to 180. Then even more was going from 180lbs to 195lbs but adding the weight in muscle. Also, grooming is super important. Shave, brush your teeth, wear aftershave, all that good stuff. Nice clothes, too. I just wear preppy clothes from Salvation Army, it makes me seem less weird.



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21 Oct 2012, 1:15 am

1000Knives wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Spend money generously. That always gets their attention.


Indeed.

What got me some more was going from 230lbs to 180. Then even more was going from 180lbs to 195lbs but adding the weight in muscle. Also, grooming is super important. Shave, brush your teeth, wear aftershave, all that good stuff. Nice clothes, too. I just wear preppy clothes from Salvation Army, it makes me seem less weird.

I got good abs and is fairly buff but I don't walk around shirtless plus I don't have a muscle guy personality.
I do have a goatee. I don't like being clean shaven.



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21 Oct 2012, 2:04 am

billiscool wrote:
if you read some of my op, you notice that I don't seem to have much luck going up and talking to women first.
I would rather have a women go up to me first and start talking to me first. For passive straight man like me, what the best
thing I can do to get women to notice me. I thought about hanging around bisexual women, I assume they would be more ''straight foward'' than the average straight women, but Im not sure.
I don't like going to bars or clubs. I do activity at my local gym. And I do try keeping myself in shape. Im a great listeren. I love listen to women and hearing all there things they say.
No insults please, Advice only.


Be less passive, even the most forward women will prefer it if a man takes the initiative. Make a bolder statement than you were before and show that you are willing to express yourself.

Having a good character or being happy isn't always a determining factor when it comes to dating. Money and power can make someone attractive but it isn't an indicator of character since it can be stolen or inherited.

Think about how you come across when you are making a first impression and try to consider the perspective that you want the person you are approaching to see you in.

To most, the man who is the life of the party would be more appealing than the man who sits in the corner. The man who takes the aggressive role of taking what he wants is going to achieve it more than the man who is waiting passively.