I lol'd at this

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http://mommyish.com/childrearing/step-p ... e-mom-468/

Too funny!

I thought that after our wedding, the parade of people telling me that I was lucky to have found such a brave man would end. I thought everyone would except that we were family now.

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she spelled accept wrong

Huh wha? Tired of being thankful for.... wha? She's entitled to have a husband take care of her kid? Wha? Huh?

Why? Because they're not that common, and no - taking care of YOUR kid is not the automatic basic instinct. You should be DAMNED grateful that he's not only wealthy and had his own house for you to move into, but was willing to raise YOUR kid as his own after you tired of your baby-daddy and moved on. (She doesn't say why but her me-me-me attitude leads me to believe it was for a lot smaller reason than "abuse"...)

All she's saying is that she and her son aren't unworthy of a decent person who accepts them.

People do make it sound like that sort of partner is impossible to find. There really are a lot of great partners who make great stepparents as well as great spouses.

She repeatedly acknowledges that she's grateful and he's amazing, I don't see what's so bad about the article.

Why do you feel the need to invalidate a victim of abuse? It's not like abusive partners (of any gender) are uncommon.

I know you enjoy picking at me but read the message again - I only chastised for leaving for reasons LESS than abuse. I did not condone abuse, nor recommend anyone stay with abusers.

Sheesh.

No, you just assumed that it was for no good reason and that she left because she got bored.
Sometimes people walk away from a relationship because the other person turned out to be a sh***y partner.

I happen to think there's a crummy title in the article. After reading the whole piece, it just doesn't seem to fit.

Maybe "I'm tired of people going through the trouble of emphasizing how awesome my husband was to marry a single mom" just couldn't be title-ified or something.

Note to folks who don't realize: It's not an uncommon editorial practice in a magazine or newspaper publication format for a title to be chosen by someone other than a piece's author.

He's not just "being a decent human being," he's effectively adopting a child. People who adopt children are giving something for, essentially, no return on the investment of time, energy, and love, giving to humanity as a whole rather then the genes that they carry. It's an act of altruism, not an automatic thing. Thinking about this woman's mindset makes me sick-I really hope that she simply does not understand how parental feelings develop, that they don't just magically appear when you suddenly have a grown kid, and isn't just acting entitled. I can't write about this any more, her awfulness is overwhelming.

Re-read my message where it says clearly that I acknowledged it doesn't say why she left. I can only surmise as to why because the tone of her whole blog post screams, "I shouldn't need to be grateful - I deserve this! He's lucky to get someone as awesome as me and my kid!" It even says so towards the end.

Statistics are also in favour of my educated guess, although it's nothing more than that.

So now the question begs to be asked - why does it bug you so much that you have to pick a fight about it? Eh? Eh? *nudge*

I don't quite understand what you mean by this, could you please clarify?

Also, I would like to know if you always perceive disagreements as fights.

I understand what she's saying. She doesn't need to be reminded so often by others that she should be grateful when she already feels that way. It surely gets very annoying after a while.

OP, why are you reading Mommyish, "a site for parents who are tired of mommy blogs.”?
Are you a parent too?

I don't like the lady who wrote that...She seems really selfish...She is lucky to have her husband as most wouldn't be accepting of a child already had. She should really feel grateful :/ bi***!

Did anyone read article?? She speaks highly of her husband and repeatedly talks about how grateful she is to him.

How dare she feel like she doesn't need to be constantly reminded that she and her son don't deserve such a good man in their lives?

What a BS attitude to have about this lady

"Why is it that I need to feel grateful to a man for being a decent human being? For caring about a child that isn’t his biological son?"

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I rather like this bit. Who wants to constantly be made to feel like their partner is doing them some sort of favor?

And what does it say about our view of men that her husband is made out to be some kind of hero for loving her and her son? The post can be said to about a certain kind of misandry, I think, a conception of men as less-than-human in their capacities.

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