Are Aspies More Attached To The People They Love?

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I would like to know this because I have had several crushes in my life and when I think about a girl who I like I tend to obsess about her more. I am not so sure if this is a AS thing where we tend to be more obessed but I kind of go way to far with my crushes. I don't know why but I just do. I guess since I am new to the whole relationship thing that I might be. What do you think?

I get obsessed and can crush on a girl for years. I usually don't take any action to let them know though. Too scared.

I can only speak for myself - I certainly do.

I do, if only because friendship is too nuanced a relationship for me to understand, so romantic attraction/love/relationships are my only outlet for socializing and affection, other than my parents.

I am.

*raises hand*
Trying to say at least one thing to my current crush, but I'm not sure what to say after getting the nerve to say "hey" :S

Relationships are just plain odd. You get so crazy off of the feeling, but then you can't figure out what to do about it

Yes. I've never had a girlfriend, but I can hold a crush for years sometimes. I get very attached.

I had a hard time not being attached to the girls who were actually nice to me in school. It wasn't obsessive or anything but whenever I would get around them I would want to help them with anything, buy them a treat, stuff like that so they would like me as much as I like them.

But then I learned that most people are nice out of modesty or courtesy and sometimes it's not real and when you do something like see them in the hallway and reach out for a high five it makes them uncomfortable? But anyway.. Back to the point. Yes, for the people I accept and who accept me I am very loyal, comforting, and generous to them.

I've been in love with my best friend for over three years now so I'd have to say yes in response to the OP.. It's painful but I can't deny it, it's what I feel. She's perfect, she doesn't judge me. She thinks I'm normal and treats me that way. She's amazing.

I wouldnt say we are more attached but other people have more filters because apparently caring too much about the other person too soon is a bad thing.

I tend to fall too hard , too soon. For most people it takes a while to form attachments. Aspies can be very loyal.

My Aspie husband and Aspie daughter are extremely attached. To the point sometimes I feel them clingy. I need to work very hard to comply with their emotional needs. And my husband says sometimes he feels alone because I do not give enough. So yes, I would say yes.

absolutely.

Attached as in the sense that one does not take that loved one for granted (as is sadly what I see most NT's behave .. but then again this is just my observation).

Absolutely. That's why I don't mind my girlfriend being so clingy because I am fully aware I can be the same way.

I can admit to that on my behalf.

I think this happens to me too. So darn hard to move on to the next person.