Inability to speak

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I'm sitting here starting to hate myself for setting that happened about half an hour ago.
I've been planning for a while now,atleast a few weeks, to ask out a girl. Today I had the perfect opportunity to do it too. I had the girl by herself and all it would have taken to ask her out was a tap on the shoulder to get her attention and asking. Afterwards I'm thinking why didn't I do it, it was just that easy. However at the time no matter how much in my mind I said 'do it' my body and mouth refused to do what was needed.
Does anybody here know why this happens and what I can do to prevent it happening again?

Happens to me, too. I don't really have any useful advice to give.

I imagine it must be related to nerves... Probably just getting more "social practice" would go a long way.

If you find out the answer, please share.

It could be worse. Right when you were finally going to utter the words, a friend could show up looking for you and ruin the moment. And then, while he's still talking to you, she stands up and leaves.

ive always just blamed it on doubting myself, that i feel ready now, but i might think of a better way later, so i hold off until later, again and again until its never.

are their social gatherings that you know you both enjoy? do you clearly know if shes single? does she have a casual report with you? (meaning that you have talked to each other in the past in depth of any kind whether work or school or something).

if youve never talked, its probably going to be close to 'cold-calling', if you have talked before, then it should be easy to just go up and start a conversation about something irrelevant, but you know that if goes well you would want to continue it later over coffee or dinner. so maybe ignore the dating part, and start with the conversation part, cause if that goes well, the date part should be simple.

I have some methods.. one is that its completely inconsequential in the grand scheme of things, whatever you say will be blown away like dust on the wind if its no good... it will be forgotten.. so say it anyway? may as well..

the other is where i imagine the scene from 3rd person...

Here's another one: after having thought "next time I come across this girl, I'll say 'hello'", when it finally happens, I notice sort of an angry expression in her face and so just walk by without saying anything...