When you realized you had ASD, did it change your approach?

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I'm in my 30s and I've always had awful luck with women, but only in the last few years did I realize that it was because I can't relate to most people regardless of gender -- and realizing that I'm ASD a few months ago made it clear why. Now I'm wondering whether I should just look for a girlfriend who is also on the spectrum.

Has anyone here thought the same way? When you realized you were autistic, did that make you decide to change the way you went about looking for a life partner?

It's probably not a coincidence that the one woman that I've had the most substantial relationship with is someone whom I suspect has undiagnosed AS. She hardly knows anything about autism, but she displays some of the characterists (being socially awkward, quirky and very self-absorbed).

I knew I was different my whole life, and knew I was ASD after the movie Rainman. I didn't get diagnosed with AS untill last year. I always tried anyway with women, but alas it never works out. I've come to the conclusion that with my being the way I am an NT woman, and I could never be on a serious level. I now only want to date women on the spectrum. It makes sense.

No, I was different fro other people for my whole life, and i have always suspected I could have somethinglike that, so it was actually a relief.

sorta the same.
my symptoms are pretty relaxed, but as a kid i was much worse with interactions. learning about AS was great for me, because i finally understood why i was different than most other kids.

my first girlfriend basically asked me out and so i got some experience thanks to that (although the girl is a horrifying person and i almost wish i didnt date her, lol)

ive had no relationship in over 5 years, and found out about AS only a year ago. in those years ive also gone back to college, lived on my own, got a great job, drive a nice car, cut my hair every month instead of every other, worked out, and changed my clothes so they look good on me. so why i was able to have relationships before but not now comes to 1 thing really. im simply not meeting new people like i use too.

when i think back on all my relationships, they were either friends or co-workers or friends of friends. before or after AS does not seem to change much on my ability to date. i do friendships and relationships fine, just not dating.

I have always had awful luck with women, and when I learned that I was aspie a few years ago, I thought 'yep, permasingle, here we come'.

I've always liked NT women. Not that I'd be against dating someone on the spectrum. But I think I'd prefer someone more normal, to help balance out my quirks. A mother, basically. Hate to say it. But I'll always need someone to make sure my head is screwed on the right way.