Guys, What Is considered Romantic?

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Okay, Guys, I need the opinion of the male Aspie/Autie. If a girl could do something romantic for you, what would it be?
How can a girl be romantic to you, and what would you consider a romantic act from a girl?

Well, from an autistic perspective - sleeping together is probably the most romantic people can get.

Most of the average "NT" dates usually take place in highly social settings, usually going out for dinner or something like that. Which, makes no sense from an autistic perspective; as the actual point of it is actually just to be with the person. This goes for both genders (At least I think so - it's highly likely)

As there's generally less for the senses to pick up when sleeping w/ said person except for the person themselves; I think it's probably the best.

I'm not going to deal with gender-specific stuff; as it just doesn't make much sense from my point of view - personalities aren't gender-specific, and it is subject to change from person to person.

That said; it's also the best setting for what I like to call "Enveloped in an Eternal Embrace".

(Keep in mind that this is largely speculatory; as I have never actually had a girlfriend as of yet)

I wish I could explain better. Some gestures are very touching, because they seem honest/endearing. I think that's what "romance" feels like to me, but maybe "intimacy" is a better word. Small gestures, usually. Little things. Or things that make me feel, safe? I can't explain.

Cuddling is very romantic. Sleeping in the same bed without having sex is romantic

Romance and sex are NOT the same thing.

Romantic would be finding something I like and doing it with me.

i have no capacity for "romance".
i believe that "romance" is a state of daydreaming where one ignores the drawbacks in their appreciation of something because they want desperately to cuddle a physical body.

That's nice...

that is an inadequate response if you can not detail what "nice" is.
i suspect you will not, but whatever anyway.

I never said they were ._.



More along those lines.

I was more being sarcastic. I don't understand why some people comment such negativity on subjects they don't enjoy or understand.

Slow dancing and walking along water in a full moon night are about the most romantic things I can think of right now. I find water extremely romantic, also without a woman. A lonely grotto or stars shining on a slightly moving water surface are extremely romantic. And waterfalls. Just the sound of water.

Oh, I see. I think I misunderstood you. Some people use the phrase "sleeping together" as a euphemism for "having sex." I thought that was what you meant.

I thought you were implying that the most romantic thing that people with autism could do was have sex - which seemed weird, because sex and romance are not the same thing.

I find the same to be true for me.

I'm not sure what romance is, but I had an NT person trying to explain it to me today, so along the lines of what was explained, for me a romantic gesture is the same as Zodai. Sleeping together. Or just lying down together holding hands and smiling because we fell good to be together. But always somewhere private. Perhaps lying on a beach on a hot summer night, looking at the stars and identifying constellations?

A romantic gesture?

Last ones Ive gotten where a couple of old fashioned mail postcards.
Why was it a romantic gesture? we had been talking for quite a while and our feelings about each other were clear, this took some time to be done and I appreciate anything that takes some time.

As you may guess from above a lot of things can fall under the romantic gesture definition for me if they were done by someone that had made their feelings clear about me.
(An acquaintance sent something that took more effort months prior to that and while it was very appreciated it wasnt considered a romantic gesture because we had barely talked(gift exchange thingy))