why do middle age married women get along with me

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so here my luck with the ladies.
ladies I get along with are middle age (40-50 year old) married women
or women I don't find attractive or care to date.
But women I do find attractive and want to date, don't get along with me or view me as ''a nice guy''
but don't want to do anything with me.

One thing about me I will never ever knowly get involved with a married women.
so, married 40 year old women just ''love'' me
and single 20 something women just ''hate'' me...... bummer, yeah.

The funny thing is Im same person. I don't act or do anything different.
everything I talk around older women is the same way I talk around younger women.
I have no clue why so many young 20 something just don't ''get my personality''

Do I have the problem. or do the young women have the problem?

I should add.
so I be talking to some young 23 year old and talking about bunch lame crap and whatnot and of course the young lady just look bored as s**t.
Because us ''autism'' male are just so amazing to listen to.
but yet I can go to a 43 year old women and talk about the same lame s**t and for whatever reason, the older women just start talking to me or think what Im talking about is cool. Alot of times, I be like ''yeah,Adam sandler is an actor'' then the older ladies go ''yeah, adam sandler is cool but do like george clooney movies''' and of course I will say ''yeah'' and so forth.
Of course adam sandler is just an example. I can go to older women and say ''how them ducks'' and they go ''yeah, I don't watch much sports but my son plays football for school'' and of course from there it turn into a conversation of what not.
But you know, I don't get that from the young ladies. It like if don't say the right thing at the right moment they ain't talking to you. You get what I saying. So I don't know,. just what happen me, you get it. sorry, Im typing how Im talking. Got to go. bye

I have the same problem. all the women that talk to me/I get along with well are either old enough to be my mother, married or gay.

I don't know a single strait woman that gives a s**t about me. certainly not one closer to my own age (32)

Because they're *Cougars* who are frisky as hell and bored with their hubbies. So they want a younger guy(who's not young enough to be their son)to shag.



Interestingly enough, I've always preferred older women and in fact, my first gf who I met at age 19 was 4 years older than me. But lately I honestly tend to clash with women my own age and ESPECIALLY with women who are older(40s, 50s, and beyond). A lot of young wimminz are strangely nice to me and it feels kinda strange. I wouldn't even consider dating someone who's under 21(though I might be willing to bang her).

People are attracted to what they can't have and perhaps this is why you attracted to women that do not feel attraction for you, maybe you do not feel worthy of having a woman that is attracted to you because you feel that it is too easy so instead you chase what you can't have because you will have a sense that you earned it..

The Ferrari in the car showroom has more value when you are looking at it through a glass window as opposed to having five in your garage..

Bah Ferraris are overrated and slow I used to like ferraris until Nissan came up with the GTR omg that thing makes ferraris slow 0-60 in 2.8 seconds better mileage and good for a daily driver. But back on topic I have had the same issue with women in their 40s attracted to me and umm I have ended up sleeping with one once!! Im so embaressed mentioning that part haha

Last edited by AspieOtaku on 30 Nov 2012, 3:50 pm, edited 1 time in total.

This older married woman (42 I believe? I'm 27) that I flaked out on 5-6 months ago has been creeping my profile again (second time she's been creeping it since I cut off contact with her). I ultimately flaked on her because she is obese and unattractive. If she was an attractive older woman, I would have slept with her even though she's married. Being with a married woman has it's own appeal to it. I've always liked that "cheating wife" porn that they have out there. With amateurs only. I don't like the fake pro stuff. Where the wife cheats on her husband with a young stud. Often times wearing a wedding ring during the act and often times the husband consents and video records the encounter.

This other older, more attractive married woman on a dating site was interested until she realized I was 20 years her junior (she's 47, I'm 27). If she has an adult son near my age, I could understand why she'd feel uncomfortable. Or maybe she wants a hookup with a guy with a certain level of maturity.

This isn't true for me at all. If I find out a lady isn't interested in me, I move on. No use being a slave to them.

Anyway bill, I kinda have the same problem. Older women love me to death and when I say older I mean women who are at least 40.

I had many affairs with married women and can only recommend this kind of fun because they are not going to bother -- no relationship, no questions about moving in or anything. They don't invade my territory and their husbands can take care about everything I'm basically not interested in.

Perhaps because they are married, they are not interested in romance, so you are not a threat to them.

This is the most likely correct answer. I am in the exact demographic the OP is talking about and in real life would probably easily get along with him and not avoid him. Why? For exactly the reason whiterabbit says- because there is absolutely no chance that a casual conversation could be misconstrued as romantic interest.

The fact that the OP can easily converse with women in my demographic but not his own demographic tells me that the problem isn't lack of casual conversation skills (as it seemed in other threads) but instead an off-putting feeling from women in their 20's that any conversation with the OP will be seen as potential romantic interest.

How to get out of this trap? I think the OP should not be so scared of the "friendzone". It is a chance to practice casual conversations with women his age until they get as relaxed and easy as conversations with women my age. Young women can sense the high expectations and stay away. The middle aged women sense the low expectations (just casual conversation) and are comfortable. Having similar low expectations of conversations with younger women will take the pressure off and they will not be so tense and avoidant.

it's the same with me lol. they dont view you as a threat trying to date them.

are young women so full of themselves that they think every single guy that talks to them, wants to date them.
it remind of me of homophobic men who think every gay men wants to have sex with them.

maybe when women get older, they smarting up and don't think every man that talks to them wants to date them.

I remember this one time this young woman thought I was hittin on her ( I wasn't)
her: I have no interest in you
me: what are talking about you not even close in my league, Im way up here (move my hand up)
Your way down here (move my hand down) so don't even have a chance with me.
Yeah, she got mad.

when young women think Im hittin them. I just go ''why the f would anyone hit on you'' and they get mad.
or I go ''your not even that pretty anyways'' yeah, they get mad. Yeah I know Im going to get crap for doing stuff like that.

I would also like to point out that older women (and I am one) are more mature and more likely to appreciate younger men for who they truly are and not what they look like or what they can offer. Older women (single as well as married) are in a place in their lives where they don't need anything from men. They're not looking for a provider. They're not looking for someone who impresses their friends. They're looking for a true companion with whom they can share an emotional connection.

And the reason most older women don't date men their age is because those men are looking to date women in their 20s and 30s.

Just my two cents.

Being friendly and enjoying speaking to you is not the same thing as wanting sex or a relationship.

Ditto, BlueMax. I enjoy talking to younger men, just as I enjoy talking to younger people in general. I am in my forties, single, and certainly not looking for a relationship, or sex with anyone 20 years my junior. Could it happen? Sure. Anything could happen. The future is untold. But if I had to willingly make a choice upon age, I would not deliberately go for a man in his twenties!