What exactly constitutes "drama"?

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On dating sites, people say they want a partner who's drama-free.

What exactly constitutes drama?

Drama, I would presume, refers to one or more of these behaviors:
* Paranoia: "Where the hell have you been?", "I saw you looking at that person!" "You must be cheating on me."
* Disrespect of privacy: spying, stalking, looking through their computer, phone, email...
* Creating conflict out of things that don't need to be turned into conflict.
* Violence.
* Yelling.
* Making demands: "You need to stop hanging out with that friend of yours," "make me dinner," et.c.
* Making threats.
* Passive aggression/the silent treatment.
* Using intimacy as a weapon/bribe.
* Others that I may have forgotten.

People who say that, in my experience, usually are drama factories. They incite chaos and then complain about it.

Aharon and hyperlexian I love your answers

Hyperlexian is the sort of person I find very sexy, because he/she (I think a she?) is very intelligent and has a lot of self confidence. Something I aspire for myself. I This (she?) should be a therapist.

*think* not *This*

Arghhhh for predictive text!

Drama is when a person puts their own feelings first, making the expression of them their primary concern. People who incite drama are self-centered and exhibitionist.

Men who are sexist, tend to be overdramatic, non?

Drama is actually defined as an exciting, emotional or unexpected series of events or set of circumstances. It can also be a play for theatre, radio or tv, to which I have had the pleasure of participating in.

I also think, there are people who critisise others of being (over) dramatic, and yet they purposelly provoke and goad them to this.

Like people who drive very slowly, and say they are always very careful, so they never have accidents. But, how many do they actually cause?

Thank you Hyperlexian

(why haven't we got, a kiss/hug smily?)

And by the way, I am guilty of this too. I know I can sometimes cause people to have (over) dramatic reactions, because I have prior to them happening, been annoying, or a nuisance, or just plainly irritating.

We *are* al humans after all. And those who say they are subject to (too much) drama, are normally the ones who cause it in the first place. Which is what others said before.

What is drama? Watch this clip, it should clear up a lot for you.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=30HZd6Bc0Uk[/youtube]

Drama-lovers tend to stir up trouble everywhere they go, always have some huge vendetta against at least one person, are permanently 'not speaking' to at least one person (but they carry on the fight via Facebook & text messages instead and keep all their friends informed up to the minute).

And as their friend or partner, they will drag you into it every chance they get. They think in black and white. If you sympathise at all with this week's figure of hate, you are now 'on their side' and you are now next week's enemy.

The world is against them and the anger builds up & up. Train late - angry. No coffee left at work - angrier. Photocopier breaks - more fury again. By the time they get home they are at boiling point, start ranting to 'let it out' and get angrier as the rant progresses, not calmer. You are their verbal punchbag. (If they don't work, they'll be in a white-hot fury over what Dazza said to Shazza on Facebook and you'll get three hours of histrionics about that instead.)

They are permanently the victim, and adept at telling the sob story or turning on the tears at will. Nothing is ever their fault. Terrible things just keep happening to them and they don't know why. (Nothing to do with the fact that they started it, invited it, and were enjoying the action until it got out of hand!)

And the biggest red flag of all, which isn't obvious until you're already in their life - none of their family will have anything to do with them!

And as if that isn't reason enough to run away now, there is usually a nutter of an ex, who isn't quite an ex, on the scene.

LOL@ the wig flying off.

This is so staged, it's unreal!