The ex strikes back

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This is a follow on post Christmas party last week (Episode III of Seeing the Sicilian Signorina).

To quickly recap (see my last thread in L&D for more info), this time last week I was under the impression that the Christmas party will be the first I'll see my ex after she dumped me. Last Weds I bumped into her (Episode I) I ending up seeing her three times last week on consecutive days. It went ok it was civil on all three occasions .

Post Episode I, I unblocked her on FB plus became confused if I still wanted friendship with her or get out of my life for once and for all.. As I was a bit upset seeing her that day, the next day I phoned her to see if we could have a private chat, she told me no and told me off for calling her.

Episode II in the pub.
At the social meet up, our first social function post dumping. It was very surreal as she was behaving like she didn't what anything to do with me. At one point in the evening we were sitting next to each other while talking to two groups of friends. A mate of ours while I was talking to him picked up that I wan't feeling great & I needed a quick private chat with him not of her ear shot. So he when the bar to a drink & I when with him to tell him what happend the day before plus to ask to keep an eye on me at the party.

Episode III the party.
A while back I asked a few mates to help me with exit strategics from the party if things get to much & go belly up, cut the long strong short they had last things come and couldn't help me out. f*****g hell!! I panicked started drinking before going to the party. I when to party drunk (I stayed to the end of the party then when for some drinks in a jazz club and two night clubs I didn't get home untill 5 am the next morning!!)! At the party I had a few drink, she was behaving the same like she did the night before in the pub. I was being social-able talking to people, at one point near the end of the party I was talking to a female veterinary nurse about my mum's dog, we ended up swap phone numbers and email address.

Right today, I messaged my ex FB she was acting funny with me like she wants sod all to do with plus she made a comment about me at the party on Friday. you looked very cosy friday night so i hope it works out for you and you have fun.

I was stressing out at the party, no bloddy way was I looking "very cosy" plus I know now that she seen me talking with the veterinary nurse thinking I was chatting her up as I get the feeling that my ex is jealous and wants my back.

Please help as I thing my ex might be playing games is now starting to regret dumping me.

Hi Utnap; it sounds to me as if she genuinely wants to remain uncoupled as relates to her relationship with you. Good for both of you that you can be civil when encountering each other in social settings.

Well her verbal communication has made it clear that she wants to friends with me tho its her behavior and non verbal communication that is giving out a different message. Am trying my best to work out what it she is trying to convey to me.
My gut is telling me its a mix of love and hate, I think she is confused just like I am about our relationship now.

If I were better try to focus on what you have now.