When will I be ready to find a real girlfriend

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In my last post I said I was failing my classes because of the fact that no girl was interested in me. That wasn't actually true. I was only failing one class, and it was for a entirely different reason.

But I feel that college is getting in the way of finding a girlfriend. On one hand, there are a lot of girls. But in engineering, I have a ton of homework that takes up most of my time and leaves me feeling tired. If the classes I took had anything to do with my future job, I wouldn't care. But I've heard from people that graduated that on-the-job training is different.

Basically, I wish I could have a career already, so I won't have to worry about establishing myself. I wish I could have started even earlier, at age 15 or 16, but I just wish I could graduate already.

I speak from experience...you will use some of the fundamentals from your engineering classes on the job, but for the most part you'll never see any of it again and will learn your skills on the job. I remember my first week of my first engineering job, I tried to use this really complex analysis method for vapor-liquid equilibrium, because it was what we had been taught in school for this particular scenario. When I told a more experienced engineer what I was doing, he looked at me like I was crazy and said "The heck is all this junk? Just assume ideal gas, it's probably close enough!" I was like wow, there goes 2 or 3 classes of material out the window lol.

Now back to the actual topic, I went back to school recently and it is a challenge managing work and fun in engineering. However I have been putting in a lot of effort, and managing to go out on a handful of dates and outings with friends. It just takes good time management, which happens to be one of my strong points. I'll often see people going nights with no sleep while I have no issues at all, simply because I manage my time so well. I will just say, that I would recommend trying to use your time in college as best you can. I found out my first time through that once you get out, socializing and meeting people becomes infinitely harder. Most people in the work force, particularly in engineering, will be in their 40s or older with families, so it can be really difficult to meet younger people. At my last job I was the only person out of 100+ employees under 35, and all but a handful were married, so it was hard to really do much with them outside of work. So I would recommend trying your best to work on developing social skills, and asking women out, because in my opinion it only gets harder once you graduate.

That said do not neglect your studies, as those should be your first and foremost priority. If they start to suffer at all, then focus as much attention as is needed on them to ensure that you do well. Your grades stay with you for a long time, so it's best to get them right while you can .

This thing will come on the right time. Having serious relationship might come with some changes too.

Noone is ever ready. It just happens.

That is so true. People think they only need to put their most recent academic achievement on their CV, but often employers want to see your A-Levels and GCSE results as well. Nobody told me that when I was at school!

I dont think college itself is a real deterrent from dating. So long as you can prioritize and make schedgules you can plan your week and free time for dating and friends quite easily

I'm starting my senior college year working on a BA degree in history and have never met anybody. I have mainly thought it'd be better to focus on your grades and then start looking after you graduate. However I don't know, I've heard it from both sides focus on the grades and look after you graduate or do both while in school. IMO I'd look after school because it has always been hard for me to find a girlfriend and I have epilepsy which makes it that much harder cause I can't drive and go to bed earlier than most. And I'll know when I find the perfect one.

But I have never decided which is a good answer?