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Dear Wrong Planet Freinds,
I just received the WP newsletter, and it encouraged me to reflect on why i joined wp. Well, as with some other ladies here, i joined because i fell inlove with a man who has aspergers. He was perfect for me and we got along perfectly- same interests, great mutual physycal attraction, same special interests, perfect for me. And I know he felt the same way at first.

So the purpose of this post is two-fold. First - it is a thank you to this forum for helping me understand and be able to relate to the autistic population. I truly appreciate the opportunity to understand through your advise, this community of lovely souls that has such a small global 'voice'. Thank you!

. Second, a word of caution for the nt ladies waiting for the love of an autistic man: i've been waiting for the love of a man for more than a year. We are absolutely perfect for each other. We are intensely close. I know he is not closer to anyone on earth. But he will not comit to me. We are both trying to get away from each other because the pain is so great...but we end up calling each other late night to open wounds. I'm not seeking advice - unrequited love is never easy. But there is one thing i learned with my aspie: whether he loves me or not, he will never commit to me. Even though he calls every couple days, with calls drenched in terms of endearment, he will never be mine.

BeThere, when you say he will *never* be yours? How do you know that? How is it possible that some people think they can predict the future? He may not be willing to commit to you now, but in terms of future no one knows. What sort of commitment are you talking about? This is really interesting for me, genuinely, because when I hear the word commitment, it confuses me. Is commitment an emotional exclusive dedication, or is it a physical demand?