Now that I've gone out with 23 different women this past year, most of whom were women I met online with a couple others being women I met at speed dating events, I've decided that I should not rely on online dating as much as I have in the past. I'm perfectly capable of going out and have no problem approaching women at my favorite hangout places for the most part (that being clubs with latin dancing).
Don't get me wrong. Online dating is great and I've been relatively successful with it. There's a lot of pros to online dating, such as seeing what a woman is all about before meeting her and being able to toot your horn better than you would if you were in person if you're not a solid communicator. Some of the women I've gone out with were stunningly beautiful. The problem was I was seen as being relatively inexperienced in love and dating, seeing that I've never had a serious long-term relationship in my life and dating was a relatively new thing to me. What makes things worse is when you're online, women paint a picture of you in their heads as being a certain type of guy. In other words, they hold standards for you. It's the same when men meet women. We all imagine what the person we met online is going to be like. The problem is I come off much more confident online in my profile and through my emails than I do in person, and that has put a lot of women off.
I've been entertaining the idea of meeting women in coffee shops and bars, but the problem is those are playing fields I have little to no experience in, and each one has their own different game tied to different objectives. Sure, a coffee shop is a good place to meet a girlfriend type, but to me it's just way too passive and the only thing I see coming out of it is boring conversation. Yes, I'm sure if I learn how to master coffee shop talk, I can get good at it, but right now I've been advised to focus and perfect on the locations where I am good with women instead of branching out to places where I'm not.
So I decided that I'm going to a latin club every night of the week that they hold latin night in my city as opposed to only Thursday and Saturday nights. I figured this would be good because dance classes are starting to stale out and I won't be able to attend them once busy season hits at work. My objective now is just to have fun and not get into a serious relationship, and I'm going to hold true to that since I haven't been in the past (have been afraid of what people would think if I told them I wanted to just have fun with a bunch of random women and not get into anything serious).
15 Dec 2012, 12:35 pm
