come up with the best copy paste opener

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So bluemax had a good point in another thread. He said that many men use one thought out opening message and copy and paste it to as many girls as they can because online dating is so competitive. This got me thinking about how I do this too. Girls get so many messages that if you take time to write a thoughtful reply to each one, you can be wasting hours on girls who wont reply back anyway, and you will run out of steam before reaching your soulmate.
anyway, i thought it would be fun to make a thread seeing who could write the ebst copy paste opener. I plan on using the winner.

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lol it's all in good fun

Well okay, despite my critique of this method in the thread you refer to, I have one idea. You could do a "Derren Brown" and write a message that makes it LOOK like you know a lot about her, but writing those vague cliches that apply to most women (don't ask me what they are, I'm just the ideas woman!). Similar to horoscopes and cold reading, where you make the words apply to you even though essentially they are just meaningless mumbo jumbo.

(The Derren Brown link if interested: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=haP7Ys9ocTk)

This trick wouldn't work on me, but might work wonders on others.

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That's sad.

If you don't get much chances in real life, I doubt that would be different online, at least that is for me, it's even more difficult online, and with all the problem about of 'pick up lines' or 'openers', hell, no thanks.

Hey sexy lady+ link to gangnam style

Sadly 1000Knives and MXH are actually quite accurate lol.

Another important thing to consider.

Women have the same urges men do, only it's not ok for them to express them. If a man starts talking about pounding some p****Y it's cool, if a girl starts talking about riding some dick, she's a slut.

Online dating can provide a girl a way to do something about those desires without being labeled a slut by her friends.

yah but when talking with a girl if a man talks about f*****g her he is rejected usually. I had a girl online tell me she wanted tom f**k me and i got turned off ill admit.

this is because she isnt directly attracted to the guy asking ti f**k her. If she was directly very attractede the reply would be when and where, not rejection.

Switch the genders and then you have the answer to yours

I joined OkCupid two days ago and I'm not sure about it. So far I have received one request for immediate sex. (This was flattering, but a bit premature.) And one request for "sexy pictures" of myself which I redirected to talk about relationships. (Not that I'm opposed to sexy pictures, but again premature.)
Has anyone had success with this site? A guy who has AS invited me for lunch! I'm hoping we hit it off. Meeting someone I don't know makes me nervous, but it is just so hard to meet someone in real life.

That's funny and I think it might work. lol

I haven't had success in terms of forming a relationship, but I have had a good amount of success in meeting a number of really great people, so I do have a sense of optimism. Just filter out the gross comments lol. I was pretty nervous the first time I met someone from it also, but just make sure to follow certain safety precautions and it's really not that risky. Aka, make sure to meet in a highly public place, let people know where you're going and when you'll be back, and don't reveal any personally identifiable information initially like last name, address, workplace, etc. And try to park in a public area as well, so that after the date is over you don't end up walking through some secluded parking zone. Follow all of that and I actually see it as less risky than, say, meeting someone at a bar or a club.

And to the topic, I think that at the very least you should include one bit of information from their profile, as it will greatly up your chances...takes 5 seconds to look it over and find something you can talk about! Plus asking a question ups your chances as well since it gives a good basis for a conversation to start, and answering a question is easier than thinking of something to say out of nowhere...it's hard to make a good question for a general mass message though. A decent, 100% general format I can think of would be "Hey, how are you? I just read your profile, and you seem like a really interesting person. I would love to get to know more about you...if you feel the same I would love to hear back from you! Take care!" Maybe ask how long she's lived in the area as well, or where she's originally from...that keeps things pretty general.

And of course, the type of message you want to send is largely dependent on the type of women you're messaging. The funny messages in this thread (some were pretty vulgar but seriously cracked me up!) would likely work better with women just looking for "fun" and nothing too serious, while mine would likely be better for women looking for more of a long-term or serious relationship.