I don't like asking out women I just meet

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one thing about me is I don't like to ask out women right away. I like to get know a woman for a couple months before I decide to ask them out.
I almost was going to ask out this one woman but Im glad I didn't cause she turn out to not be a very nice person.

I don't feel right about just going up to a woman and just asking her out on the spot. I don't mind talking to women. I just don't like the whole asking out on the spot because I don't want to end with some psyco woman.

Its the noble thing to do and can save so many headaches in the future when you know the person for a while.
It doesnt work though, youll just be friendzoned and nothing will come of it. Because people got used to instant gratification

Remember that part of dating is getting to know someone,

But yeah, getting to know someone for a couple months will most likely result in her thinking of you as a friend.

You have to take control of the situation and the only way is to realize how you feel and how she feels. If both of you are feeling the same way, then ask her out. Feelings disappear after a while for most dates, while one person will be lucky enough to never lose the feeling. It still is a numbers thing, so you have to date to see who it is that never loses the feeling.

I certainly know what you mean. I would never feel comfortable asking out women I just met either because I'd at least want to get to know them and hopefully would be able to know what their personality was like. The problem is this approach is a hit or a miss. The reason is because it seems most guys will ask girls out right away because if they don't, someone else will do it before them they could have missed out on a chance. I look back now and for some girls, I was very lucky I didn't ask them out because some of them really turned out to be quite awful. One women I was infatuated by two years ago, turned out to have a rotten personality and her past two boyfriends dropped her like a bad habit. At the same time, another women I became great friends with has a boyfriend and as I got to know her, I realized how great she really was and how happy I could have been with her. Because I didn't ask her out in time, I missed out on her completely.