It's impossible for me to date, ever

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I have no qualities whatsoever to attract women.

First off, I'm 26, poor, surviving off SSI checks, while still living with my grandma.

2nd, I'm slow, stupid, and uneducated, and most people treat me as such. I dropped out in the 9th grade after failing twice, and this is while I was in special ed, and had been for my entire school life. So basically I learned nothing, and is borderline illiterate. I know nothing about politics, literature, science, math, history, art, religion, philosophy. I can barely do simple fractions and time-tables.

Also, I'm hideously ugly, as most women (even men) have told me throughout my life. It's to the point that people can tell I'm I'm half ret*d just by looking at my face. I talk funny as well, with a deep southern drawl and a stutter. I don't do myself any favors when I open my mouth.

I have a huge scent problem. This is going back decades from when I was in school. I smell even after taking showers. (probably because I don't know how to bathe properly, the way my house smells, and/or a gland problem) It's embarrassing and humiliating, it's basically like human repellent that I can't get rid of. Who wants to be around someone who smells like me?

I am a low functioning, developmental delayed, mental midget with aspegers. I have no special skills or talents. I can't drive, or even do simple task like mowing lawns or delivering papers w/o screwing them up.

I'm boring, bland, annoying, uninteresting, and just plain irritating to be around. I lack knowledge on just about anything interesting that people want to talk about.

I have no life skills, and my grandma basically takes care of me. I have no idea what it means to be a "man" (that's what people keep telling me) I'm a 14-15 year old trapped in a 26 year old mans body.

I have no friends, and my "hobbies" for most of the past decade are playing video games, and watching anime/porn. I'm a hermit that's spent the most of the last decade locked up in my house.

Based on all what I said above, doesn't it sound like I'm the most repulsive, pathetic, bummish loser you're ever seen?

No girl/woman/female has ever given me the time of day, let alone a phone number, and I haven't hung out with anyone (male/female) in the last ten years.

Could you blame anyone that wouldn't want to hang out with someone like me?

You come across as desperate; which is really off putting and obvious.

Try making a list of all the positives, instead of the negatives.

You can write well. That's a start, isn't it?

I had sex yesterday with a girl that loves video game and anime, go figure.

No I come across as a half ret*d, stupid, repulsive, bitter, frustrated, and lonely loser that's looking for sympathy and reasons to keep living.

I don't understand your point. If I were interesting to talk to, smart enough to get into college, looked like a male model, and a had six pack, I could probably have sex with just about any girl I want regardless of what she was interested in.

I don't think it matters with what hobbies I'm into, especially since most females (people) consider "gamers"/anime fans losers that can't get a date and/or have friends.

I'm not doing anything to dispel that stereotype.

Find a girl that likes videogames or anime? That way, you will both have a mutual interest.

Zoiks!! Another thread on the exact same topic???

You've been given tons of advice in those threads and every stitch of it was ignored completely and turned away so you could whine endlessly about how utterly hopeless your situation is. We want to help - we really do! When will you start taking the advice everyone keeps offering?

Until you make any kind of effort to move forward, you'll stay mired exactly where you are. So get moving!

How do I mask my smell, shyness, lack of social skills, loneliness, desperation, the way I look or talk, or the the fact that I'm slow, uneducated, and lack advance knowledge in ANYTHING other than video games and anime?

There it is again... someone gives advice, you whine, "I caaaan't - it's too haaaard!"

Get your rear in gear and maybe you'll start climbing this mountain!

Mr20: when you're open to trying advice out most of the people will try to help

Last edited by MXH on 22 Dec 2012, 2:40 pm, edited 1 time in total.

My "situation" is hopeless.

I wish I was able to finish HS/get into college/get a trade but I wasn't smart enough.

I wish people would respect me and treat me fairly, but that'll never happen since I'm too slow, stupid, mentally and socially challenged for people to see me as an equal.

I wish I could make friends, but that'll never happen because of my severe trust issues.

I wish I could date and someday marry, but that's a dream since most women view me as a ugly, repulsive, uneducated and good for nothing "boy" that's masquerading as man in his mid-to-late 20's.

I am a pathetic POS that hasn't accomplished anything in my life.

There is no hope for me.

I don't have advanced knowledge, I didn't finish school and got my education and trade at a community college.

I am slow to pick up on things and it took me several times to get my driving licence.

I am on the spectrum.

Through determination and willpower, you can overcome as I have, it may take a lot of struggle but you will get there. Maybe you won't rule the world or be a rocket scientist but you can do okay if you set your mind to it.

You know what MR20. You obviously want the help, but your mind won't accept it. You allow whatever pain you feel inside to control your thoughts and emotions and this is preventing you from feeling any better and seeing who you really are. It's heartbeaking to see it. Just imagine how the people in your life who cared for you feel when they see you all upset. They didn't want you around because they weren't convinced you were a happy, joyful person to be around. You depress them with this type of rant and noone wants to feel the pain you are feeling. This pain is keeping your guard up. You are too afraid of something. It's obvious that this isn't you who is speaking, it's the pain inside of you speaking. Your pain is taking over who you really are.
What I want you to do is this. Stop thinking of the pain in the past, and stop thinking of a happy future. Ask yourself what you can do in this present moment to make yourself enjoy it more.

DamN Internet doubleposted

Last edited by MXH on 22 Dec 2012, 12:49 pm, edited 2 times in total.

There is no hope for you because you don't want to work on yourself or take anyone's advice. There are plenty of resources here on this board alone, let alone all over the Internet and in the world around you, to help you out.

The journey of 10,000 miles starts with a single step. I will give you a single step: Women care more about your attitude FAR more than what you look like or what you're interested in, and I can tell you that no woman wants a neg. You're biggest problem is just that; you're a neg, but the good news is you can turn that around. My first task to you is to start taking walks around the neighborhood and do it everyday.