The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
So jerkiness is not the key here, it's the hot looks.
I'll have to disagree with you. Looks definitely give you a huge benefit in general. But if you don't have social skills to back it up, you aren't getting very far anyway...
It's all a matter of who the better survivor is. Good looks are in many respects an indicator of good health. That's why it's appreciated very much in general.
But social skills are very important in our society. Therefore, if you lack them, you won't be popular despite good looks.
Good social skills in many respects is equal to being self-centered/always putting yourself first, which may often be perceived as jerky behaviour. Putting yourself first does include condescending others when it's necessary in order to not face loss of social status.
As always the problem autists often face is to think more about their surroundings (and others' lives) instead of thinking of themselves (and their own life). Thinking too much of surroundings does come off as "nice guy" behaviour.