how to remove fear

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frnd u did'nt understand my problem , my problem is not about only talking to crush but my problem is overall fear of talking to girls ...alothough i am motivated before i talk but as and when i approach any girl my fear start increasing and i even forget want i want to talk i can't express myself what i want to say ... .... what abt dat ?

Tell yourself that you can either suffer the regret of not talking to her or you can talk to her, again realize you have something to gain and nothing to lose Just go into it and realize you probably won't see the same girl twice.

I think Wolfheart has a point, in that the fear aspect is usually only improved by exposure to the fear.

I don't believe fears are often conquered as in they never come back. Instead I think its a matter of pushing them back by becoming used to them. One approach is to regularly expose yourself to that fear at a low level. After a time it becomes easier and then you move up a notch to begin trying things a more scary, and then become more comfortable at that level.

In this case rather then go for broke, like in asking someone out, etc, instead try to just find a lower level goal like having a short conversation with a girl. It doesn't have to be someone you have a crush on, and it can be very short, like just greeting them (ie. How's it going?). From there try to progress to slightly longer ones, etc. The initial idea is becoming more comfortable being around and talking with girls in general.

n frnd what about the fear of mine in which even a girl standing in front of me and i want to talk but my but does'nt cordinate to move towards her , i even fear strongly in calling her their at the spot . and if i don't call then i regret afterward that i should have talk to her at that place itself .

Not sure your age, but is there some activity you could join or participate in that brings you together with both guys and girls ?
Like some club or activity at school ? Or perhaps at community center. Can you volunteer to do some charity work ? If you are working with people it is easier to have conversations then if you are just standing around trying to think of something to say.

You pretty much just gotta "Just do it." There's no other way around it, besides drugs perhaps.