A date - this Saturday

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This sh// is getting costly and repetitively boring

Good luck.

Costly? Do something free or cheap then. Just meet for a coffee and pay for your own. Or go for a walk together. Or visit a museum or other free entry place if you have those. It's only costly if you are "taking her to" a fancy restaurant (for example) and paying for everything.

theres other costs besides the date itself. Transportation, for example, can be a huge cost depending on location.

I dunno, I feel those walks/activities things are more.....appropriate for later dates.

Don't worry I can afford, I meant...time/emotionally-costly when it happens over and over again (dates with no results later) , ha.

Valid points by both.

I just try to enjoy dating for its own sake. I didn't have anything to do that evening otherwise, so that's good that I'm getting out there and doing things, right? The date turning into a meaningful relationship is a bonus. The date turning into a not-so-meaningful relationship (which seems to be happening to you lately Boo) is unfortunate, but, well, hopefully you had some fun times.

And I know plenty of people just hate going on dates. So it's kind of a necessary evil for those people

(Not kicking our favorite Boo... it's just a funny comic!)

If your dates are costly, you're doing it wrong.

I cannot express this strongly enough: women are not impressed by money, gifts, things. Activities and moments are what women want. They need an experience, not a receipt for some expensive crap.

Having money is a good thing. Women like that. Spending it to impress her? Not so much.

uh... aren't you generalizing a bit?

Here in the West, where the chickadees usually have no issues with providing for their own, it's not money and stability that win the game anymore (unless we're talking about like LOTS of money). Women here like sexiness, excitement, passion, confidence, and wit.

I dunno how different it might be in sand land.

It seems to me, if you're getting bored with it, then it's not worth it for now. Maybe come back to dating when you're bored from something else? From all the posts I've read by you, you seem like you're having trouble finding genuinely good ladies and ladies that hold your interest. Maybe OkCupid isn't giving the best results. Have you tried Geek2Geek? Just curious. Seems like a lot of nice ladies on there, maybe similar interests. Are you becoming bored because they aren't interested in what you are?

Looked up for Chickadees, very cute, I want one! Do you think they can bear the summer's heat here? :p

What do you believe needs to change?

Totally, but beware: They're extremely fickle and prone to being temperamental! But hey, at least they look nice!

^ country XD

i feel compared to share the factoid that the chickadee says 'chickadee' as an alarm call and the bird adds more 'dees' on the end if the danger is really bad to warn its mates. so if there is something really scary it says 'chickadeedeedeedeedeedeedeedeedeedeedee' or whatever. i love them. they're really cute. i discussed it on a WP video once.

on the subject of the dates, the concept of multiple dates with various people who you may not have chemistry with is mystifying to me. online dating seems rather similar to blind dates, except you're seeing a profile and talking at least a bit. do you think there is any value in getting to know people really well online first before bothering to meet in person? that worked for me, but not everyone likes that