Hi peeps;
I want to discuss a specific thing: In what kind o settings or dating environement would my strong sides come out best?
I'd say my strongest sides are in my charackter, which I'd define as hounest, loyal, emotionally mature, serious, caring, responsible, ethical. I also like children & the idea of being a father. I'd consider myself to be a very 'solid' partner, tend to stick by people in rough situations. I combine it with being romantic and quite up-front (I'm not shy of showing interest & passion), and being kinda smart (doing a PHD), fairly ambitious/succesfull & very good at reflecting/debating/talking about worldly issues (social problems, politics, culture, etc.). So to sum up... good hearted reliable guy + interesting talker on a serious level.
Now why things should be on paper what many woman want is a husband, it doesn't seem to be what they fall in love with. I think I'm rationally a good pick, but don't have the social (or physical) exciting/attracktive edge. Btw my looks are average across the whole line, not a plus but not an obstacle eighter, just a bit skinny maybe. I'm not shy but certainly not extroverted, not 100% independent (i'm 24, live alone but still lean on my parents a bit), Got overall low self esteem, I'm not mainstream culturally (can't talk about sports, movies, fashion), I'm very far from a hedonist so I don't show off comfort, etc. I've seen guys who I consider jerks/losers be way more succesful, bc somehow they communicate bieng 'fun/attracktive' better than me. I do like to dance, but I'm not shallow enough for a club crowd I think.
Question is, via what lane / medium / activity / environment can I make my qualities come out best. I'm very confident I can make a relation work (had 2 girlfriend before) bc I got the passion & patience for it, I can also 'close the deal', etc. It's the step of getting a girl interested that bothers me.
20 Jan 2013, 11:08 am
