Women always ignore me if they call/text while I'm asleep?

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I am so tired of this. I just woke up this afternoon and I realized that I had a missed call and text from this woman I have been trying to set up a date with. She is a little shy and went cold on me like 2 weeks ago. Of course, to be polite, I try calling her back a few times...no answer. Then I text her saying that I was asleep. She texted me: "How about I meet you on Monday handsome guy?"
Of course to my luck...she texted me this 3 hours before I woke up. I texted her: "I just woke up hehe. Yeah that sounds good."
No reply. Can the women on here please explain why you all claim to be so understanding and open-minded and yet she possibly took offense to a sleeping man not replying to her??? How is a situation like this even possible seriously? Does she possibly think I am just lying to her and she thinks I blew her off? If I blew her off...I wouldn't even bother trying to call her and text her back at all right? I don't understand her logic at all. This same exact situation has happened to me with COUNTLESS women. Can someone please explain this to me?

The only response I have is this: her problem, not yours. Don't make it your problem.

@aspiemike: Yeah I totally agree with you and I will definitely never waste time making it my problem.

I just want some of the women on here to give me some possible psychological reasons why they do this. I know for sure some of the women on here have called or texted guys while the guy was asleep and then ignored the guy...even if the guy let her know he didn't get back to her right away because he was sleeping! I really don't get this woman.

another thought though. Do you text or call? Might be the difference in helping you stand out compared to other men.

I usually call more than text because I like talking much more. It is faster and I usually make mistakes texting and it is just too slow and annoying to me. I don't like texting really, but I will often text as well...if I can get my point across in a short message. I tried calling her first and then followed up with a text. Doesn't matter though. She ignored me completely because she is ret*d and assumed I was ignoring her when in fact I was SLEEPING.

Maybe they don't want to date a man who sleeps all day.

I don't sleep all day. If I was sleeping all day, then I would have replied to her when it was night time and it was only 2pm when I woke up from my nap. She maybe thinks I'm lazy, but I think she seems pretty effortless in giving up after one failed phone call and one failed text.

So I think this depends a fair amount on your age bracket, but I do know that a lot of women are led to believe that you have to be slow to reply to a guy so he doesn't think you're clingy or too interested. For example, I've been told that if you call twice in less than an hour it makes you look needy and possibly crazy. I believe the same goes in reverse, just maybe not as strong. For younger people shorter reply times are expected, so many younger women will take it as a sign you're not interested if you take more than a few hours to reply. So I think you're seeing a few effects colliding - 1) you don't reply quickly, so they think you're not interested, 2) when you reply if you call and text repeatedly in a short period of time you may make them think you're TOO interested, 3) arielhawksquill is probably right about some women, they may just be put off by finding out that you are sleeping into the afternoon (again, age dependent, the older you are the more likely this is to be something they care about).

In short, it's all a giant, exhausting game. The easiest thing to do is is reply once with minimal information, and then let her react however she's going to.

I wanted to also add that I am a little sick and that is why I was "sleeping all day".

How did you arrive at the conclusion that she got offended that you were asleep when she texted you?

This is because she is a Chinese woman and most Chinese women assume the worst when you don't get back to them right away. I know this because I have dated so many Chinese women and I have been living here in China for over two years.

If she doesn't reply to me by tonight, I will assume she made a big deal out of my not getting back to her right away and I will forget about her completely.

Alright. Different culture from what I am used to in Canada. I think you may have solved that issue on your own then.

They sound like the middle eastern women to me, they go crazy and upset if your reply is delayed.

I dunno, but I'd suggest you stop telling her you are asleep. They way you have worded your post, it sounds like you are nearly always sleeping. Whether that's got anything to do with her not getting back to you straight away I don't know, but I'd just ixnay on the eepslay altogether. You don't need to give a reason for a slow response unless it's really slow, like more than a day, and even then all you really need to say is "sorry for the slow reply".

Yeah I know what you mean. I shouldn't have told her I was sleeping at all. She probably just assumes I'm lazy. Unfortunately, here in China, replying about 3 hours late is equivalent to replying a day late. I honestly think that I shouldn't need to apologize for a late reply to anyone. I shouldn't have needed to explain myself to her as well. That was my mistake. From now on I will never apologize or explain the reasons why I got back to them so late. If they don't like it, then they can find someone else I guess. Thanks for the help.