marriage partner for aspie male

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Hello,
i am interested in gathering opinions from happily married aspies regarding the type of partner that is most compatible for an aspie male.

Let me explain. I was married once. It didn't work out due to conflicting personalities. On the spectrum I am relatively high functioning, but am still limited in my interests and social ackwardness. I am an introvert aspie man with slightly feminine characteristics, though I don't look this way on the outside. I am submissive (not on the bedroom) and prefer letting my partner make the decisions and be happt to do so. I am passive and content to live and do what my partner wants as long as it resides in my boundries (anxiety).

My therapist thinks I should be with someone who is masculine/extrovert, but my doctor says he thinks someone who is more introverted than me would be better so that I appear more masculine to them. I see complications with both, not able to keep up with the pace of extroverts and there being too little outgoingness to balance each other out with introverts. Most introvert women look for extrovert men to "balance them out", and extrovert women tend to look for MORE extrovert men so that they appear more feminine. Where does that leave an introvert feminine straight male aspie in terms of potential partners? What works?

You need to find a woman who is a nurturer.

Um...

While it's not marriage yet (Only been going on for two months?)

Other Aspies?

(It's also long-distance, we live 12 hours away ><)