He loves kissing and I don't! What am I supposed to do?!

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I am an aspie girl with an NT boyfriend. He loves that I have aspergers and is conviced it makes me smarter and better than I would be without it. His whole family loves aspies. But he wants to kiss me and I hate kissing!! !! ! I hate the sound of it and the way it feels. Its DISCUSTING! I also think I am a bad kisser because I don't know what a good kisser is or does. I really like this dude and I want to want to kiss him but I don't want to hate it and I don't want to be bad at it. Any advice???

I guess you do what Amy Farrah Fowler and Sheldon Spencer does - communicate mainly though the internet. Seriously though, just tell him you despise kissing.

Send him to me.

Lol just kidding.

As I said before, sexual incompatibility is a tough one to sort out. And kissing is part of that intimacy, that 2 people need to be on par with.

i tried to start a relationship with a girl over the summer and she kind of disappeared on me. when she later reappeared this winter, we were talking about why we didnt end up dating. one of the things she mentioned was that she hated kissing and felt like she would have to kiss with me more than she wanted to if wed have gotten together.

i guess what i want to say is that she should have told me that back when i had the chance to make a decision in regards to a relationship with her. im not exactly all about kissing either. its nice and all, but i wish id been given an opportunity to put 'doesnt like to kiss' in the cons column, you know? because her pros column is pretty long and it might not have mattered so much.

she wasnt a good kisser. and i actually liked that part of it.

I like 'pre-kissing' where a lady friend and I get close but don't actually kiss.

I also like predictable touch, say like a sensual shoulder massage. And I like slow dancing.

I really encourage you to find your preferred way, taking it medium step by medium step.

They say communication is the key. I think it's important to tell him about it, harboring secrets never does any good. I'm sure he'll be understanding about it, considering he likes your apserger sides. And together you talk about it and find a solution. =)

Have you explained your dislike of kissing to him? Perhaps you could both focus on something that you both enjoy, like hugging perhaps? I personally don't like kissing either, I honestly don't get what all the hype is about!