Going nuts with how complicated booking a date is!

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For the last two weeks I've been trying to set up a date with a girl I've been corresponding with. Several times she has reschedule. I'm very busy in my work as she is with hers, but i make an effort to schedule...going so far as to book time out in my work calendar a week in advance. Then she contacts me today asking if we can change the time. I couldn't do it so we're rescheduling again.

AHHHHH!! !

This is driving me nuts. Bad enough I can't get past the first date with anyone. Now we're reached the point as a society where even booking the first date is like trying to get in to see your bloody doctor.

I'm really beginning to see the wisdom of arranged marriage. I'd be totally willing at this point to just be randomly paired with someone, and we just make a go of it.

Why must we all make things so difficult? On the news, they're been talking about love letters written by Lyndon Johnson to his future wife. He proposed to her a week after they met, and pursued her for two more months before they sealed the deal. They lived together for 35 years after that.

Today no doubt he'd be dubbed a stalker, instead of a romantic.

It's madness, sheer madness how seemingly half the populace inflicts loneliness on themselves, and in doing so makes the other half lonely as well because they won't make a good faith effort to come to the table.

How can I get anywhere when people can't even find time to meet?????

Another one of these........

Maybe you should make a documentary about finding a girlfriend since it seems to be a passion that's consuming you.

EDIT: I was being sarcastic initially but now I realize that it might be a good idea. The research could help you and it would be quite interesting. The premise would be about an awkward guy who has to find a girlfriend and/or have a successful documentary by the time he's 30 or he will follow through on his melodramatic vow to off himself. It could either be very poignent or very tragic depending on the result.......either way it's an interesting enough premise that I'd check it out.

Last edited by Geekonychus on 15 Feb 2013, 1:51 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I'll never make a film about my self. It's the height of arrogance. I leave that to the Lena Dunhams of the world and their solipsism.

I think you should reconsider........

Not to write your doc for you but I think the best possible ending would for him to fail in his goal but the twist is that rather than off himself, he learned along the way to love himself for who he is and not judge his worth based on others. Inspiring, poignent........oscar worthy?

if she really liked you she'd have already have gone out on a date with you.

My suggestion...........MOVE ON..........

on the contrary, if she is that important to Brian, then this reshuffling won't be such an inconvenience

he's wasting his time she isnt interested.

So she rescheduled... Maybe you have something you can do with your spare time that you can enjoy doing on your own when the date cancels or reschedules so that you don't wrap your head around it too much. Detach yourself from this and think of the hobbies you have. What do you enjoy doing?

Slightly off-topic, but I found that bit funny but true. If you look to the past, often men would write letters professing their undying love and devotion to someone after only meeting her like once (or in some cases, only seeing her once lol). In all of the chick flicks and romance novels, that's touted as the ultimate in romantic gestures, but if a guy actually did that now he'd be labelled as a total creep/wierdo, I don't care how attractive he is! There's one book I'm reading from the 18th century, and this 35-year old man asks an 18 year old girl's father for his daughter's hand in marriage, professing how deeply they both love each other...and he only spoke to the girl once.

I'm reminded of the case of Berlioz...he saw an actress on stage during a play, and afterwards basically spammed her with love letters (19th century version of spam that is!). Then he wrote a symphony for her, and if you read the program for it, it's bat-**** crazy! Nowadays he'd get a restraining order and possibly placed in prison. Back then, they ended up getting married, even though it didn't end up working out too well.

Now I don't by any means think that how they did things back then was any better, I just think that the cultural shift in that regard is somewhat funny and ironic. Particularly when you think of how love is still portrayed in that classic sense in the media, but in reality if people acted that way they'd get nothing but scorn!

I think the problem is that EVERY woman is that important to Brian. Before every date he gets himself worked up as if this girl is going to be his salvation from a life of suicidal loneliness. That's a lot of pressure to put on someone before you even meet them.