Can't satisfy my boyfriend

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My boyfriend is getting very frustrated with me because I can't satisfy him. He wants to do role-playing, and tons of other creative things that I can't seem to do. I don't know how to do anything like that. He wants me to be the one to initiate everything and come up with everything on my own. I wasn't even very creative when I was a kid when all of my peers seemed to have active imaginations. It is frustrating me because he doesn't seem to understand how I work. He keeps saying "and don't blame having Asperger's on this" on many things. I am not a very sexual person at all. I rarely find myself "in the mood" and he is constantly in the mood.

He also gets annoyed at me because I find my nose in a book all the time rather than paying attention to him. He says I ignore him all the time but I don't think I do. I just can't cuddle and do nothing else, my mind wanders and I get very fidgety.

I don't know why I am posting this, I guess I just want some advice of some sort.

EDIT: He also keeps talking about a friend of ours (not so much my friend anymore, this guy is a jerk) because he knows exactly how to satisfy him and every time he talks to him online he is trying to convince my boyfriend to come stay with him. Now whenever we have an argument my boyfriend just says "fine, I'll just go stay with Logan!" which frustrates me more, because this friend is notorious for stealing my romantic interests.

Sounds like he's not a very good match for you. He's not being very respectful of your needs.

I can relate to him in most ways. If I were the guy, I don't think I could put up with the things you describe either, though I'm not much into role-playing either. It's not all him, and it's not all you. You just don't sound compatible at all. Just look at moving on.

We have been together for over a year and a half. I just can't see myself without him. I'm trying to make this work as best I can.

I'm not experienced with gay sex, but it still sounds like your relationship is very unbalanced... he wants a lot, you want little.

Something's gotta' give. Either:
HE has to resign himself to not getting what he wants and being very unhappy,
YOU giving him more stuff you don't want to do and being very unhappy,
BOTH bend some by you giving a little, he gives up wanting some of his desires and both being less than "happy" but better than current,
SOMEONE gets hit in the head with a brick and changes their mindset entirely and now fully wants what the other does, or
ONE of you ends this unbalanced/unhealthy relationship.

It really rubs me the wrong way that he threatens to run off to another willing partner if you don't "succumb" to him.

I hope you can figure something out that works... heartache sucks.

I believe the correct answer is "Cool, you go stay with Logan then, I won't be here when you get back."

I don't care how long you've been in a relationship, if there is no mutual respect then the relationship has to go!

I'm sorry but he sounds like a douchebag.
I think you should move on and find a nice guy.

I would recommend cutting off contact with both your boyfriend and this Logan character and making friends who don't want to hurt you. I have been in a bad relationship where I was put down for lack of sex among other things. I remember feeling like I would never get anyone better and being desperate to keep him from dumping me. After he eventually left me, it was hard, but eventually it got better and I realized that he had been a jerk, and not worth my time anyway.

If he makes you feel bad for being yourself, you should not let him remain in your life.

suck his dick more